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Topic History of: Father of triplets and twins in need of help
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sweetie angel What i would do is if they do that in public get down to there level and let them no that if they do not be good they will stand in the corner that they will have a time out.Most kids do that so they get attention.Or what u could do is reward them for being good.I would suggest watching super nanny I'm not saying your kids are bad but u can get good parenting skills and it will teach u allot.
CariannDS Give them as much possitive attention as possible when they are being good and when they are being bad take the attention away, like the time outs that Nonny suggested. Hopefully they will learn being good gets Mom and Dad to pay attention to me and being bad dose not.

I wish you luck and sleep.
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stori I would suggest taking some along time with Kyle and Jay, maybe going out to eat or to the park...with out the triplets. The boys are missing their along time with mom and dad, and they probaby now feel that the new babies stole their spotlight. Leave the babies with a relitive or a sitter for a few hours, so you can go back to hanging with Kyle and Jay, having some along time with them, not needing to feed the triplets or hold the triplets or play with the triplets. I am sure that Kyle and Jay will enjoy that. Good Luck!=]

Stori
Nonny Hi,

Congratulations on your five little sleep stealers!
I can only imagine how incredibly sleep deprived you both must be!

Everyone knows about the 'terrible two's but few discuss the 'test-my-patience threes'! Compound that period of growth and learning by having two of them going through it at the same time along with three new little brothers taking center stage and it's no wonder they are acting out. Children at that age communicate by words, actions and attitudes. They cannot articulate how they feel, that is a skill they still need to learn. At three they still have no real concept of sharing. Not toys or mommy and daddy!

One on one time probably seems next to impossible but it may help make them feel just as important and special as they were before the 'new babies invasion'. The divide and conquer system is going to be as good for you and your wife as it will be for Kyle and Jay.
Do you have family close by helping? If so, they can also lend a one on one time helping hand. Reading a book, coloring, going for a walk, going out for an ice cream treat, watching their favorite show with them all translates into 'you are special' to me.

Any violent behavior toward each other, their younger siblings, or others should have the same consistent reaction. Pick them up, remove them from the situation, have direct eye contact, face to face at their level, give a stern reprimand, saying that is not allowed, we do not do that in this family, followed by a 3 minute time out (3 years old = 3 minutes). Select a 'time-out area with no talking, no toys. I used the bottom step on a stairway. If they wail and carry on ignore them. Now, I know that's easier said than done! But I can tell you it will pay off in the long run. Talking to them, telling them to stop crying, etc. means they really aren't 'out' of the action and that is what time-out is supposed to convey. When the time out is over, simply say you can rejoin us now. Case closed. Sometimes they might pout and won't want to rejoin and that's fine, they will get over it.

I would often tell my two that if they could not play nicely together, they were not to have any contact at all, not even to look at one another. I can tell you within five minutes they wanted to play together.

Mealtime chaos is a whole other battlefield. A child's stomach is as big as his fist. If you keep that in mind, it may help you not to do an imitation of Linda Blair's character in the Exorcist during a meal.

For what it's worth, I will pass on something I have told my children and now my grandchildren . . . whenever they had a case of the "I wants'. "Okay, I'll tell you what. You want . . . . whatever and I want good kids, so when I get what I want you can get what you want." Worked like a charm.

I wish you the best of luck and a multitude of blessings and joy -
and a good night's sleep now and then!

Nonny
peterj Durring the last few months the twins havnt been accepting of the new triplets I have 5 amazing sons Kyle, Jay who are 3 and Tucker, Jackson and Killian who are a few months. I love them all so much but Kyle and Jay have been acting out at dinner, bedtime, nap time even when they are outside having fun at the park or something. They have been acting out with violence and throwing fits. We try to punish them when they act out but its not working. The triplets have been alot of work without the twins acting out. I have learned that 5 boys = 0 sleep.
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