well, I'm new here, and I wasn't sure whether to ask the question or not, because I don't like people feeling "sorry" for me... but then I thought... you dont know me so you can give a sincere opinion, and I'd really like to hear it...

well, I guess you do have to know a little about me: im 25, I was gonna get married in august 2009... but my fiancee and I had an accident in december 2008 and he died 11 days after the accident. I found out I was pregnant 5 weeks later.(I know, I was shocked.. and kinda in denial) I'm mexican, I live in Mexico... but I've always had a thing for italian culture, so I always knew I'd name my kids with italian names.. what I didn't know is I was gonna have to name a baby girl without the help of her father.

I always liked the name Luciana, (italian origin and rhymes with my name, Susana) and my fiancee's name was Gabriel. We talked about naming our kids after us once, and he said he didnt want to. But now I'm considering Gabriela (female version of Gabriel in spanish) as a middle name. So her name would be Luciana Gabriela, but Im not sure... I'm not sure if I should name her after him, because I know saying that name will always make me think of him.. Not that I dont want to remember him, of course, but it's been really hard... trying to accept this whole situation... I mean, I was gonna be getting married by August, and instead, I'm not married, he is dead, and I'm gonna have a baby! sorry.. it's just been hard..

so.. I was just wondering.. should I name her after him, or would that be too painful/creepy? I've been thinking about it A LOT, and I really really really dont know what to do. Sometimes I think, yeah, I'll do it.. Then other days, I just cry with the idea of saying that name for the rest of my life..



help?

thanks*



*sorry if my english is bad, it is not my first language, I hope you understand.. and sorry if my post is very long.. i guess I have trouble summarizing...

If you want to i think you should there isnt any reason why you cant

First of all I am sorry for your loss but congratulations on your baby... It is such a horrible thing to go through losing some one you love but to be carrying their child the way it has happened to you is such an amazing thing to have happen and myself personally would name her after her father cos no matter what even if you don't name her after her father she will ALWAYS be a living breathing reminder of the love that you both shared and that in itself is beautiful and even the universe couldn't take that from you when they took him....

Luciana Gabriela or even Gabriela Luciana to me would be beautiful, the choice is yours so all I can say is go with what your heart feels as that is always the best judge of choices as a persons head just tends to get in the way I hope I have helped in a small way

I am really sorry for your loss, I think Luciana Gabriela or Gabriela Luciana would be beautiful names for your daughter I also think that giving her a name after your fiancé is a really nice thing to do I don’t think for one second it is ‘creepy’ it’s a really nice way to remember him.
I have also lost someone I loved very much my 14 year old son passed away in October 2008 and if I ever had another son I would use either his name or middle name to remember him, personally I would do it because of how much I miss my son although It might be painful but personally I think I would feel closer to my son
I hope I helped you ,
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Kara

I think it would be lovely for your daughter to have that special connection between her and her father. It is not creepy at all.
Luciana Gabriela sounds like a gourgeous name. But the best thing to do in my opionion would be come up with a name or two more to think about and when you lay eyes on your newborn baby for the first time, do what you feel most comfortable and happy with. I hope everything goes well for you and bubs

So sorry for your loss... I know it's really hard right now, but I promise you, it will get better in time And when it does, you will not feel so sad when hearing your daughters name, but instead it will be a reminder of your fiancée, your daughter's father I think Luciana Gabriela is a very pretty name as such. But perhaps it could also help to pick another couple of names so you can decide when she comes? In any case, you must do what you feel is best. I believe the grief will ease with time and you will not be as sad when reminded of him

Best of luck!