Hey alyssa16alexander. I'm 17 and going through the same thing. I was so scared at first but with support form your family and friends I'm sure you'll make it through. Feel free to Pm me anytime! Make sure you tell your parents and and baby's dad before you make a decision. Hope everything goes well.

Annie

On the abortion topic...

This is my opinion:

I'm pro-life/pro-choice. I consider abortion wrong in the extreme, but I also believe that the woman has the right to choose. I agree with LovesBabies, only when raped and when the baby or mother would die. I would never get an abortion. But I refuse to take the choice away from someone else. I may try to convince them to have the baby, but I would not take away their right to decide.

This is how I look at it: Will you give up nine months of your life, less even, so someone else can live a full life? If you answer no, I will try to convince you no more.

Please do not bash people for their opinions, it only causes problems and people rarely change their minds. A friendly debate is fine, but please keep it FRIENDLY.

On the actual topic:

Tell someone. Your best friend, your parents, the dad. Just come out and say it.

LovesBabies wrote:

Aborting a life that you made is not the same as getting treatment for injuries. I don't even want to start trying to contemplate how you put those two in the same catergory. I am saying that in this day and age we are all responsible for our own doings (there are so many different contraceptions out there) and a poor little baby should not have to suffer for someones mistake. That is why I said in my mind rape is the only reason someone should be able to abort, also serious medical conditions. There are so many loving people out there wanting to adopt...[/quote]

I agree with you on the adoption part which is why I also suggested that in my first reply. But I do feel that as long as a child is inside me, unable to survive outside me, dependent on me, it's my right to decide what to do with my body. I agree that the parallel with the car accident was a bit far fetched but reality is that many women feel just like that when they find out that they are pregnant. They are not ready to have a child, mentally, physically, financially. And like you said: NO poor little baby should have to suffer for someone's mistakes. Every baby deserves comfort, security, being wanted and loved. When that is not possible, there must be other alternatives.

Elikapeka99 wrote:

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Lady, buy yourself a brain someday...

abortion is scientifically ENDING A LIFE! How would you like it if your mom got pregnant with you, and she decided she didn't want you to live because she didn't want to be responsible for HER OWN ACTIONS! and all that crap about the "fetus" NOT being "a human".....what the HECK!!!! Humans don't give birth to cows! They give birth to HUMANS!!! Thus, the human population is still existing.... Wow, Golly gee, how simple.

As for the person that posted this topic, here is what you need to do:

a) see if you have support from your parents/family
b) get MARRIED to the dad of the baby
c) LOVE that baby all your life! Don't make her feel unwanted because of your actions.

hope this helps and best luck to you and the little one!

-elizabeth-

Oh dear me, I was really hoping it didn't have to come to personal attacks. I always try to respect peoples opinions, even defend their right to voice opinions that completely clash with mine. But when I get thrown arguments like these, I must say it makes it rather difficult. First off: I DO have a brain, one that works very well for me actually. Since we're on the subject of science, I must inform miss Elizabeth that actually typing a message in a similar fashion to what I'm doing right now does require the individual doing it to have a brain. Just because someone doesn't share your opinion doesn't mean they lack a brain. Glad we have that sorted out...

Of course abortion is ending a life, I'm quite aware, yes. I feel that that's any woman's right to do, when that life is inside her, still physically dependent on her. As to what I would feel if my mother had aborted me, I would probably not feel much seeing as I would be dead before my conscience as well as ability to compare and reflect was developed. And that would be a better destiny than being born to a mother who did not want me. I never said the fetus was not a human, but it is a human that depends on the body it grows in. I will not even go in to you cow comparisons there, since I feel that they don't say much about the actual topic.

And finally, as to your advice to the young lady who started this topic: getting married to the baby's father will probably not solve anything. Perhaps he's a jackass? Or doesn't want to be with her? Or she doesn't want to be with him? Marriage is NOT at all a guarantee for a happy family. There are many unloved babies with married parents, and many loved babies who have separated parents, or who only have one parent, or none at all. But I don't see any win for anyone when you put an unwanted child into this world.

Celianne wrote:

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On the abortion topic...

This is my opinion:

I'm pro-life/pro-choice. I consider abortion wrong in the extreme, but I also believe that the woman has the right to choose. I agree with LovesBabies, only when raped and when the baby or mother would die. I would never get an abortion. But I refuse to take the choice away from someone else. I may try to convince them to have the baby, but I would not take away their right to decide.

This is how I look at it: Will you give up nine months of your life, less even, so someone else can live a full life? If you answer no, I will try to convince you no more.

Please do not bash people for their opinions, it only causes problems and people rarely change their minds. A friendly debate is fine, but please keep it FRIENDLY.

I absolutely agree with you. Bashing is not at all necessary. My opinion is very similar to yours since I'm strictly "pro choice" as you put it in your end of the world and I don't consider abortion wrong at all but if you want to have a child, and are sure that you can love it and provide for it, then I don't see anything wrong with you having it. I will, much like you, not take away anyone's right to decide. I own me, you own you.