I just have a question and want to get some opinions. I have a close friend (she's like family) whom I have shared what names my husband and I liked over the years, and she's done the same with me, even before we were ever pregnant. A couple of years ago when she was pregnant, I overheard her telling some people that she and her husband really liked Caroline and that they were talking about using it. I was shocked, because this was my little sister's middle name who passed away and I had told her one time that we were going to use it if we ever had a girl; and we may never have a girl, but still. I just could not believe that she would take it when it meant so much to me. I was so upset for several days and prayed about it; I finally decided I just needed to go to her and talk to her about it. So I did; I didn't tell her not to use it, but just that I was upset that she was planning on using it when I had told her that we were going to after my sister. So she called me after I got home and said she'd talked to her husband, and that it was okay, they were going to pick a different name; and they did. Was I wrong for doing that?
And now, they are expecting a baby boy this summer, and they are using the very name we had picked out for a second son! Of course, the name has no special significance other than it's my favorite boys' name; but I still wonder if the idea didn't come from me when we were discussing our names. I guess we just like the same names...oh well.

My sister passed away 3 weeks before her 16th birthday 11 years ago; she had a severe seizure in her sleep that caused everything to shut down. I was 19 at the time. It was hard, but how we got through it- our church family being there for us, and also knowing that she can be with our mother now who passed away when we were little girls.

And also, yes you are right Trenton's Mommy, that it was nice of them to not use my sister's name, so that is why I am not worried about them using the boys'name I had picked out; I am a little disappointed that I had my heart set on using it and that we're not going to get to now, but I don't have any right to say anything about that because it's just a name that we both happen to like.

Well you can think that your friend and you have similar tastes. That's a good thing, that is part of why you are drawn together. You know so many people talk about names, you could of told her your boys name, but when she came across it in a baby name book, she might not of remembered that she heard it before from you. She might of said it out loud, and thought oh I heard that before and I remember liking it. I will tell my husband about it. She might not even be doing it on purpose! You did the right thing about Caroline. And by the way that is a pretty old name. Hope someday you have your girl!!!