I am a single 17 year old who is pregnant with her first child. I am very excited and really really scared. the father said he wanted me to have an abortion and i refused. when he told me he didnt want a baby no or ever i told him to forget about me and his child, that i would do it alone. And now that lost helpless felling has begun to sink in.
If anyone knows anything to help i would really apreaciate it.
thanks
Marly

Center yourself on your child. You are no longer alone. You have created life. It may not be the ideal age or the ideal time to be having a baby, but it is what it is. Others have done it before, and others will do it after. You can be one of the successes.

Congrats.

just remember, u want to raise your child to be strong, respectful honest people, do they really need the influence of a father that cannot take on his own responsibility?? that cannot see that he was a part of some thing so special and wonderful as creating a whole new life & that comes with the responsibility of being a grown up.. thats not going to teach your child the kind of values you want him/her to have, so embrace it, u r doing the right thing..

Seaason

Obviously he isn't ready for a child right now. Maybe later in his life he will realize there is nothing he can do to get away from the fact that it is his child too. Don't stress on the fact that he isnt there, Be strong for your baby, give him/her enough love for the both of you and if you ever need advice the ladies on here, im sure, are more than willing to help you out.



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best of luck.

I went through the exact same thing when I was 15... My eldest was born exactly one month to the day after my 16th birthday... I'm the 2nd of May and he was born 2nd June He drives me crazy now as do most almost 15 year old boys but I love him to death, wouldn't go back and change the descision to have him for a second and just so you know, life after childbirth as a teenager is possible and alot of young girls do it... I agree it isn't the ideal time to be having a baby but it does have it's benefitd.... His father by the way still doesn't have anything to do with him even though he went and had 2 daughters with someone else 4 years after he was born which doesn't bother me but it does affect my son.... All you can do is be strong for your child, hope you make the right choices in life to benefit your child, and support them in everything they want to do in life..
I am currently pregnant with my 5th child, my husband is wrapped as it is his 3rd child and all with me(I'm special) My 2nd childs father and I were together for 5 years and it didn't work out but sometimes you have to go through a tonne of crap to get the goodness we all deserve and you honey are only 17 and have a long life ahead of you which now includes a prescious baby to share that life with and you will be able to grow and learn together and you always have people to turn to for help and advice... Make sure you go to a doctor though it is very important to keep up with regular checkups

Hi,
I've been there too. The guy and I were living together ,its not like we didn't plan our future and was working towards it. When i got pregnant he begged for an abortion and i refuse so he left me. I had just quit my job so I had no money and felt alone, hurt shock, ashamed, and angry. What pulled me together is knowing that i have my baby growing in me and i need to be strong for both of us. I have a healthy almost 3 mth old now, she's truly the love of my life. Trust me when ur blessings have arrived it would all be worth it and if u had a chance to do it over again u will. Be strong and I know if u have any doubts or questions the moms at this site would be a great support.