Well good luck with it,I hope it all goes ok but I'm sure it will.At least having your dad with you will make it easier,you won't be alone.

Hwifey-I have to agree about waiting. I know you don’t want to hear that, I know what you are feeling since I was there too. I wanted one when I was 10, can you imagine? I waited and I did it more for any child I might have rather than myself. You still have so much you should do first and a baby will only prevent it. My suggestion is baby-sit, I did. I got to have my kid or baby fix without the responsibilities. When they were crying, cranky or just generally a pain, I got to go home when I was done. I just didn’t have the same patience I do now. Think of how much of a better mom you will be if you are educated (that includes college) and have a good paying job. You will be able to help them learn so much more if you have more life experiences. You will be able to give them so much more with a good job. I was raised by a single mom and she broke her back to give me everything I wanted or needed. For her generation she was old to have me, almost 30. She waited so she could have fun. She had a great job, which was good since I had a deadbeat dad. I don’t mean to sound harsh, but if you had a miscarriage it was your body's way of saying it wasn't ready or something was seriously wrong with the baby. I know you are living the "married life" and I am glad you have started an account. Just think how much more it will be in only 5 years. Give it that much more time at least. Get more education. Have fun. Get all the crazy stuff out of your system so when you do have a child you can devote your time to them. I promise if you don’t wait you will end up resenting your child. I know there are many girls on here very young and preg. It is an epidemic. Your body is biologically ready, that is what it was designed for. It was normal 100 years ago, but now teens were given the chance to stay young longer. Your body might be ready, but is your mind? The other girls on here have a very hard road ahead and I am sure they know it. I bet if you ask some teen moms who are older now they would say they would miss their children terribly, but if they could change things they would have waited. I really hope I have made you think about things.


As to the abortion issue. I am actually glad to hear it being talked about. I know it is a taboo subject and it should NEVER be taken lightly because it is a major decision, but also so is adoption or keeping the baby. They are all big decisions and everyone should know their options. Even if you are married some people to choose another option than keeping the baby. Everything should be laid out and explained. Like private adoption and open adoptions versus you just turning the baby over and never knowing what happened. Abortion is a huge decision as well. Some never recover emotionally after one. It should be talked about! Sometimes other people’s experiences can help you decide what is the best CHOICE for you.



Dee- you sound like a smart young lady with some major things coming at you. I am so glad you have your dad helping you out. Support is so needed now. Wait to get married. You don’t want to do it just for the babies’ sake. I hope their daddy stays in the picture and is a big part of all of your lives. You don’t want to become another static and divorced. Wait and see if you both can handle all this stress. It will either make your bond with him stronger or put a huge wedge between you. Luckily in this day and age it is ok to have a baby out of wedlock. As to telling your mom, my mom has the same mental problems. I totally understand that you have to think up the right words before you tell her. I wish you, your babies, their daddy and your family well!!!

I'm most definitely waiting on the marriage, becuz I know that getting married just because you're pregnant isn't the right reason. I hope the the babies father is a part in their life too, I grew up in a home where I have a great relationship with my father. I'm really nervous about telling my mom because of her illness, I'm afraid it may worsen them. Thanks for you support, though!

Dee-Good for you! I totally understand about your mom. I know how fragile someone like that is. I definitely know you need to tell her on one of her good days. If you tell her when she is in her depressive state, you are right it could go bad. If you pick a day where she is in a good frame of mind it may be easier. I suggest you speak with her doctor first and maybe have him help you tell her. He/she will know how to put it so it is easier for her to handle. I have gone to my mom's doctor on several occasions to get his advice on how to tell her certain things. It will probably still be hard and she may have a bad moment. But with the Dr's and your dads help you will be able to do it in the least disturbing manner. Good Luck!!!

Hi! I told my mom today. We sat her down with her doctor and my dad and I explained the situation. She was shocked, but she was having a good day and only got bad at the end. She said she wants to be a grandma and asked me when I was getting married. When I told her i wasn't she freaked out and had to be restrained...but i'm happy I got it off my chest. Thanks for your help.

Hiya.I bet you feel relieved that it's done now.sorry to hear it didn't go great but at least she knows now,I'm sure she will come around,as soon as you have them.