I'm with SLM. Get through it, I know you can, and when you have the baby he'll come around.

Hello, and congrats on the new suprise bundle. Sometimes the best gifts in the whole world are the ones we get by suprise. That being said I wanted to ask if theres any reason you no of that your hubby would be so upset. Did you have complications with your first? Are you guys having finacial struggles? bad economy these days. How did he react with the first one?

Im not trying to be to nosey, Just there has to be some reasoning behind his feelings. Thats no excuse to be mean to you. But sometimes men get mean or upset non supportive, when something more is on there minds, and we have to sometimes dig it out of them.

I really hope he comes around and you guys can talk through this. N if all else fails maybe seek some advice from pregnancy resource.

*Mary*

IF YOUR HUSBAND IS NOT BEING VERY SUPPORTIVE JUST DONT WORRY ABOUT IT EVEN TOUGH IT GETS ON YOUR NERVES BUT JUST TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT AND IF THAT DONT WORK THAN PRAY ABOUT IT BECAUSE ONCE YOU PRAY EVERYTNING WILL BW OK AS LONG AS YOU BELIEVE IN THE LORD.BUT ONE DAT HE WILL LOOK BACK WHAT SHOULD HAVE DONE THAT HE DIDNT DO AND IN THE END HES GOING TO FEEL BAD ABOUT WHAT HE DIDNT DO TO HELP YOU BETTER SUPPORT THAT CHILD OF YOU'LL.SO JUST HOLD ON TIGHT THIS IS NOT THE END OF THE ROPE.BUT AT THE END EVERYTHING WILL PAY OFF AT THE RIGHT TIME.

thanks everyone...and to answer some questions...he is being very selfish about the matter, he races and he doesnt want the baby because he wont be able to afford to race anymore. That is his only issue and his parents are pushing the issue to and im so tired of it that im about to walk away and tell them that they cant see the baby because i just dont believe they deserve to...im just so confused and i told him last night that i wasnt going to go this whole pregnancy stressed out and take a risk on hurting me or the baby. He acted like he didnt even care...so i think its come down to we are almost about to go seperate ways.

First of all. I'm so sorry you are going through this. It should be a happy time for you both. Not something you should be feeling guilty over.He helped you make this baby and if he can't be man enough to stand by you then you must ask yourself.. Is this the right man for you and do your babys deserve this kind of dad in there life??

I had a pregnancy when i was 19 with a boyfriend of 5 years.everything was wonderful until we got pregnant and then he turned into a selfish jerk he said if i had the baby he would kill himself and if i got rid of it. it would make us closer and we would get engaged and when the time was right we will have a family. never happened i did what he wanted and he still stayed the same selfish person he always was. in the end i left him. i am 33 now and still feel guilty for having the abortion it's a secret i kept from my family and it hurts to this day. after that. a year later i met my husband we now have 2 kids and one on the way. he is so wonderful and supportive.

don't ever do something you feel is wrong for you. live for you and do whats right for you. You have to go through it and then live with it.

If this is your 2nd child, then you already know how it went the 1st time around. Review how he acted then && how he treats you && your 1st child. How did he act throughout that pregnancy?? If it was very different than he is acting now, I would ask myself WHY is he acting this way. Why does he not want a 2nd child?? Has he mentioned he did not want another child before your pregnancy?? Did the 2 of you practice any measures to prevent it?? These are all things to consider, just to try && figure it out. REMEMBER that it is your body && you do have the final say!! We were put in charge for a reason. Never do something you kow you will regret for a long time to come, that could ruin your marriage just as well. How do you think he would act if he couldn't see you or the child for a week or 2??