my mom went through acute heart failur right before she had me,she didnt die but she got really sick! i feel so horriable because i purposly got a job 3000 miles away from my pregnant wife so i wouldnt have to see her go through the burden of pregnancy, i just got back and she 7th months pregnant. it just freaks me out to look at her..is there any advice out there for me?

Just relax! I think u need to be there for ur wife and the baby! If u miss the birth u will regret it for the rest of ur life I garuntee it! Not only the birth but the whole pregnancy. Also she will need u by her side to coach her through the birth and just be there for her. Please don't miss the birth of ur baby! Pregnancy is a beautiful thing! Good luck to u and I hope u overcome ur fears!

Try to relax, and remember that pregnancy and childbirth is a natural thing. Women have babies everyday. And there are so many advances in medicine today that they didn't have years ago. Everything should be okay.

You definately need to relax and be there for your wife and your unborn child. Your wife needs your support and for you to be there throughout the pregnancy and especially through the delivery. Take the childbirth classes with her as well. Your wife needs to know that you do support her and will be there for her.

hey man, your wife needs you right now. I was scared durring both of my fiancee's pregnancy's and im sure that you have your fears but it could be worse man my fiancee has had a set of twins and a set of triplets they were both verry high risk births and im sure that if you miss your wife's she will never forgive you. She needs you right now man. Try your hardest to face your fears man because you need to spend your last coupple months as a coupple before you add to your family becuase you will never get that time back. Good luck

Peter

Your fears are justified given your family history, but your wifes family history is actually much more pertinent when it comes to her pregnancy. If she has a family history of healthy child births on her side, then the odds are well in her favor that she will do just fine. I suggest you and your wife take a birthing class together. They teach you what to expect during labor and how to handle it. That way you don't get freaked out when you need to keep your composure the most. You DON'T want to miss this... it is a beautiful miracle. Ask your mom... I would be willing to be that even after everything that she went through bringing you into this world, she would agree you were worth it, and she would agree that you shouldn't miss your child coming into this world either.