Hi! Last year I was 15 and got pregnant. When I was eight months pregnant the car I was driving in flipped over and I miscarried. It was really traumatic, though the baby I was carrying was the product of violence. I have had a bit of a rough patch, my mom died when I was one and my dad was physically abuse until I ran away. I lived on the streets where my son was conceived, and then moved in to a Christian home for runaways. This time I got pregnant accidently with my boyfriend. I don't know why but I think God has a plan for me. I already spoke to the owners of the home I live in and they agreed to let me stay. Any advice and thoughts are welcome. I'm six months pregnant with a baby girl.

I wish you the best. It sounds like things have not been easy for you. Have you considered adoption at all? God gave his son for all of us, so I always have to think that giving your baby up for adoption is the deepest form of love you can provide your baby if you are maybe not in the best situation to take care of it yourself. Taking care of a baby is full of love, but at the same time, it can be really stressful. I know people who have been adopted, and they love their biological mother for having the courage to do what was best for them. Perhaps I am offending you with this whole conversation, and if so, I am sorry. It is your baby and your life and you have to make your own choices. If you want to know more about adoption, talk to your doctor and/or social services to see if it would be right for you. Many agencies can also help you with our life and future. Many of them are not just out to 'take' your baby, but to help you better your life and help you find a safe environment to live in before and after your baby is born. Good luck to you.

First of all I wish you all the best. Secondly if you feel in your heart that you are unable to take care of your unborn baby at this time then look into adoption. Do you have any family members that would be able to help you out? You need someone in your life that will be there to support you. Look deep into your heart and go with what your heart is telling you.

Actually, I'm moving in with my auntie Jessila next month. I really want to keep my baby, I don't think I can stand losing another baby.

First of all i am sorry about your loss, it must of been very hard for you.
If you want to keep your baby, then its your life & your choice.. only you can decide what you want to do and what is best for you. We can only offer you advice and support.

If you want to keep your baby it must be for the right reasons not because you have already lost one baby so dont want to go through that again, you must be able to give your baby your full attendion & love 24/7, be able to support and provide for your baby all through her life. Trust me, it will not be easy as a child needs your full attendion all the time esp when they are newborn, it is stressful and hardwork. But most of all your baby needs to be bought up in a loving/stable home.
If you feel you can not provide all this for your baby then i think adoption will be the best thing for her. There are plenty of people out there that can give your baby girl a loving home and that can provide for your daughter and give her anything she will need through life. No one will think your a bad person/mum for giving your baby up, there will know that you have done it to give your baby the best start in life!


My friend gave her baby up for adoption, i know it was very hard for her but she knows it was the best thing to do at that time in her life as she was only 16 at the time and wanted to finish school. She got to pick her babys new parents, spend time with them so she knew what they were like ect, she even gets to see her daughter on birthdays and christmas so her daughter knows who she is. Adoption sounds horrible at first, but once you know more about it and what your options are you will understand it more!
Good luck for your future, only you will know what is best for you both.

I can't believe everyone brought up adoption without this girl even mentioning it. Just because its what YOU believe is best. My mother had me at 17, we went through incredibly hard times and still do (i'm 20) but i thank god she didn't give me up. If you want to raise this baby then join a support group in your neighborhood. I can tell you that my mom was and is a great mom. take care of your baby an love it. Fight for her and make sure you have help. I can't imagine my life without my family. I wouldn't have wanted to live with another family or be in the system even if it eant more comfort!