wearney, unless the father is abusive to the child why would you want to deny him his parental rights? Most of the kids who grow up to be a burden to society (whether it's the stripper coke head, common criminal, high school drop-out or the teen mom w/3 babies daddies) statistics show that most of them did not have a father in their lives. A good mother would not put her child at risk to suit her own comfort/needs.

Then you all complain that the father isn't in the child's life, that's cause so many women make it impossible and will go to any measures just to spite the father, wow.

Generally, the mothers who WANT the father in their child's life did NOT try to get rid of him. The ones who didn't don't.

Whether a mother WANTS a father to be there or not has little bearing on the matter, and that goes both ways. No matter how much a mother WANTS a father to be there for her child, if he does not want to be, he wont. And the flip of the coin is true, no matter how much a mother DOESN'T WANT the father in her children's life, she has little choice in the matter. He has legal rights until a court of law has judged otherwise.

If your childs father wants to be a part of it's life, do not bar him completely. Give him terms, fair dates and times, that he is allowed to see the child as lobg as he is up to date on teh financial obligations to the child.

in reply to a previous post, when i commented on the father having no contact i was speaking from experience and was well within my right to stop the father having any contact. at the end of the day i dont know what this father is like but there are ways of a father having no contact if he is unfit.

hi hun ive told him all through my pregnancy he cud have the babs each wkend and put his name on bc but he said unless we are together he aint bothering so why now when i havent heard from him for 5 months im due next wk is he starting to get funny xx

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why now when i havent heard from him for 5 months im due next wk is he starting to get funny xx

Because maybe he is realizing what he is going to be missing. On the other hand, maybe he realizes that is the only way to stay in your life.

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by: wearney
in reply to a previous post, when i commented on the father having no contact i was speaking from experience and was well within my right to stop the father having any contact. at the end of the day i dont know what this father is like but there are ways of a father having no contact if he is unfit.

Yes, but a mother deciding he is unfit does nothing, it is up to the courts to decide if he is unfit and issue an order barring him from contact.