Hi, I'm not sure if anyone remembers me or not. I had issues with an ex-boyfriend. I have a few questions, since I'm not quite sure how things work. I'm due to have the baby at the beginning of March. Now that my pregnancy is coming to an end he has decided that he wants full custody of the baby. He believes that I'm unfit, because I'm seeing someone else. He wants me back with him again and I told him no, because I'm happy in the relationship I'm in.
SO, my question is.. There's no possible way he can take the baby from me? Besides saying I'm unfit? I have the means to raise the baby all on my own, without his child support. I don't trust his girlfriend with the baby. I really would not want him to receive visitation rights, at all. If I put down on the birth certificate that I'm unsure of who the father is, would that be illegal? He doesn't really care about the baby, he just doesn't want to see me happy. I'm really confused with this all, so if anyone can offer some insight please do so.

He can force a DNA test at his expense. He can not take the baby from you without the courts permission, and until a legal visitation order is in place, you are not legally obligated gto allow him access to the child (morally, that is another story). However, if he threatens something like taking the child away from you as in kidnapping, then you have legal grounds to keep him away from the child.

In the state of missouri whoever has physical contact with the child is the custodial parent unless a legal order is in place. That means if the mother is out shopping with the kid and turns away and the dad walks up and picks up the child, he has every legal right to it and there is nothing the mother can do.

Are you addicted to drugs? Is your new boyfriend addicted? Do either of you have a record of violence or child abuse? Do you have a job, a home, utilities, and food? Are either of you suffering from an untreated mental illness? Is babydaddy a drug addict? Does he work? Is he violent or abusive? Is he mentally ill? These are the things that will influence the judges choice.

Bexie_08 wrote:

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He can force a DNA test at his expense. He can not take the baby from you without the courts permission, and until a legal visitation order is in place, you are not legally obligated gto allow him access to the child (morally, that is another story). However, if he threatens something like taking the child away from you as in kidnapping, then you have legal grounds to keep him away from the child.

In the state of missouri whoever has physical contact with the child is the custodial parent unless a legal order is in place. That means if the mother is out shopping with the kid and turns away and the dad walks up and picks up the child, he has every legal right to it and there is nothing the mother can do.

Are you addicted to drugs? Is your new boyfriend addicted? Do either of you have a record of violence or child abuse? Do you have a job, a home, utilities, and food? Are either of you suffering from an untreated mental illness? Is babydaddy a drug addict? Does he work? Is he violent or abusive? Is he mentally ill? These are the things that will influence the judges choice.

To answer your questions, My boyfriend and I are not addicted to any form of drug. We have our own townhouse and pay all of our bills on time without a problem. As for my 'baby daddy' I wouldn't know if he's on any drug. I think he's bipolar with the way he acts. He's made several threats, broke windows out of my car, ran me off the road. I would classify him as crazy. I have everything he's done documented. I was told I should have an attorney present if I want to have a custody battle. So since you have some knowledge in this kind of stuff... Could we somehow have something against him stating that he would be a danger to the baby IF he got visitation rights?

hiya im in same position as you im 20years old split with my ex in may found out was pregnant june he didnt want to know unless i took him back i told him no way he hasnt bothered me for 5 months now as baby is due 6th feb tomorrow he wants visitation and said he wants my son at weekends with his new girlfriend which i wont let happen hun he can take me to court if he wants im happy to raise my son alone i wont be blackmailed he is a great man but dosent want my son unless we are together but he was to possesive thats why it ended so he wont change

There is no way he would get full custody just by saying you are unfit. He would have to prove you do drugs/drink too much alcohol/ are a violent person, or whatever else would make you an "unfit parent". You don't have to put him on the Birth Certificate if you don't want to. It seems like he just trying to scare you. I know it's hard, but don't let him get to you and just try to enjoy the last bit of your pregnancy.

chellek89 wrote:

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hiya im in same position as you im 20years old split with my ex in may found out was pregnant june he didnt want to know unless i took him back i told him no way he hasnt bothered me for 5 months now as baby is due 6th feb tomorrow he wants visitation and said he wants my son at weekends with his new girlfriend which i wont let happen hun he can take me to court if he wants im happy to raise my son alone i wont be blackmailed he is a great man but dosent want my son unless we are together but he was to possesive thats why it ended so he wont change

Oh, I'm sorry. That's a good thing you're able to raise him on your own without him.