Im a teen fifteen years of age. (I'll be 16 in a few moths) I am engaged (yes I know it's silly at my age) and I am pregnant. I just have been saying I was grown so no one would judge me. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to tell my mom. I was pregnant a year ago and she made me abort it. (My fiance is the father of that baby too) I DONT want to have another abortion no matter WHAT. It really hurts even thinking about it. I'm scared.. I'm still kinda thinking well maybe I'm not pregnant. I've been trying SO HARD to get to the doctor (with out my mom knowing) but, I haven't been able to. My fiance's dad has been trying to take me to even the abortion clincs to get a free pregnancy test and he's been too busy. I don't know what to do. I haven't had a period yet or any thing and I've had a FEW symptoms. I've taken 7 hpt's. Two came up yes+ and the rest were no-. I really just need advice. Please don't be mean..

Hmm. I don't remember reading any of your prior posts, so I'm just going to deal with this one. As far as I know, pregnancy tests do not come up positive unless you're pregnant. Weird that the other ones were all negative, but that happens. That's horrible that your mom made you get an abortion. Nobody should have to go through that unless it is their own decision. I understand you not wanting to tell your mom, but she is going to find out sooner or later.. I say get it over with. Try to mature about it (assuming that you are pretty mature for your age, being engaged and all) so that she treats you like an adult and listens to you. Tell her how you feel about the abortion. You're young, and I seriously doubt that you are ready to have a baby or be engaged, but that's your choice. Have you considered putting up your baby for adoption? I have a few more questions too.
How long have you and your fiance been together for?
Have you dated anybody besides your fiance?
Would you be able to financially support a baby, if you decide to have it?

Wait a second, I just read your other posts. You're 15 and you were TRYING to get pregnant? And you said that you had a sponataneous abortion.. was that a cover up? Now I'm really confused.

Im with Vaness1 on this one. I myself have read your passed postes and Im very confused. Please let us all know whats really going on. Firsr you said you didnt know if you were and that was in a post 4 weeks ago. Now your saying 4 weeks later you are 15yrs old and you are pregnant but dont know how far along you are. Very confused.

Yeah I was trying to get pregnant... Me and my fiancé have been together for a year and a half. I won't consider adoption... I got pregnant cause I want to be. I wanted the child that was taken from me back. Yeah sure I'm not ready financially but his family is here for me. They are excited for us... I have a job and he does too. We both still live at home of course so we'll have a place to live. I know I've really messed up. And I know I'm dumb. Well I can do this.. I just have to tell my mom. That's why I'm scared. Teens younger thane me have been having babies for centuries and they did just great. I think I will do ok. And my fiancé wants this baby even more than I do. And I want it bad. I really don't want to hear how dumb I am please... I know what you are thinking. I have heard every insult you can think of from my own moms mouth. She puts me through a lot. I dont know what it's like to have my mom tell me she loves me. Mine would rather be at her boyfriends house. I don't know what it's like to have a happy family. Please don't judge me.... Please. I just need some one to be here for me. Please. Like I said I'm sorry I lied. And I'm sorry I'm dumb. But I don't regret becoming pregnant at my age. Well if I indeed am.

You say that you don't want any judgements or anyone to be "mean" to you. But here's the deal. You don't need someone to pat you on the head and say "go ahead little one, have a baby". You need someone to tell you just exactly how ridiculous you sound. Even if it means being a little harsh. Because I'd much rather hurt someone's feelings and have them realize what a messed up choice they are about to make than to stand idly by and watch them bring an innocent life into this world that has no choice in the circumstances they are being brought into.

Some things for you to consider:

1. Do you think that you are really ready to bring a child into the world when you yourself keep calling yourself dumb (your words not mine).
2. You already realize that you and your fiance aren't financially ready for a baby and will depend upon his parents. Does this seriously seem like a good situation to you??
3. Having a baby just to re-create the happy family you never had will backfire. Please heed my words on this because I know this first hand. I've been there.
4. Getting pregnant because you want the child that was aborted back won't bring that child back. It won't make the pain go away. It won't make you forget it ever happened. It won't solve any problems whatsoever.
5. Any family/friend or even stranger who is excited that a fifteen year old girl is pregnant (and yes, you are in fact still a girl, despite the fact that you can procreate) is utterly insane. This is a universal truth.
6. Women centuries ago had babies in their teens because there was no birth control. And they got married at a young age because their families couldn't provide for them any longer and needed to basically boot them out the door asap to have more money to feed their other offspring and themselves. And they had more and more babies because, again, no birth control, and also because they need help on the farm/in the house/with the family business/to take care of younger siblings etc. etc. etc. That was the social norm. Today, however, teen pregnancy is NOT the social norm and it is no longer considered the best situation for your circumstances. That is why so many people look down upon it. There are so many other options for teens today than there used to be.
7. Not having the courage to tell your mom you are pregnant just proves that you are not ready to BE pregnant.