Ok here is my take, this is a forum about advice on babies and pregnancy, not morality. People want to know what to do from here on out, some decisions have already been made (and in some peoples eyes mistakes, but it is not our place to decide their mistake). No one can unmake them and to judge harshly only leads to more problems and people do not respond well to any sort of advice if there is a negative or attacking quality. This is not a religion forum, so maybe leaving that out of the equation will lead to more listening since it is one of the no-no topics that puts up so many peoples backs. If we stick to the topics at hand maybe the people who have more life experience can help out the ones with less and then they can pass it on.

Thank you!

you seem like a very wise lady.