Okay, I am so nervous. I do not want to be a mom so soon. I am 5 months pregnant with a baby girl. My boyfriend Clayton would be very hurt if we put the baby up for adoption, and I don't wnat to do that to him, he is to special to me. There are other things that we want though, like we both want to go to college, Clayton wnats to join the army (that would be easier than getting into college with a little one on your hands). I could go on and on but I have limited room. Our parents both want us to get married, I have thought about it, and thought it wasn'to bad, he thinks the same. There is somthing wrong about though, like maybie we should hold off for a while. Any suggestions?


- Natasha

I think that it's good that you don't plan to put the baby up for adoption IF you have a support system. They really are very expensive and if you can't provide the baby with what it needs then you should consider adoption but I think that as long as a baby can be properly taken care of then it should stay with the family. As for getting married to the guy that I'm assuming is your boyfriend, that's something that you should think about long and hard. Marriage shouldn't be something you take lightly and you're still very young. I'd wait until the baby arrives to see what kind of father he is (Not to offend you but some guys aren't so responsible once they're faced with the real demands of a baby rather than what you see on TV) and then I would seriously advise you to consider if you're really ready to devote the rest of your life to this one person because marriage is not only about the baby but about yourself as well and how you feel about the other person. It will be more damaging than not to marry someone that you're going to get frustrated with all the time, especially if you end up fighting. The child should have both parents but I would suggest that you explore your options before you decide to marry him, otherwise you might feel like you've missed out on something later.

If you have doubts about marriage you should wait. Going to college with a baby is going to be harder, but not impossible. If you really want it, you can make it happen. Best of luck to you.

I too got pregnant as a teenager got married and my husband joined the Navy. I think that it,s great that your boyfriend wants you to keep the child, but you are a mother now and your first priority is to the child, and what best for him or her. You can't make decisions for you boyfriends happiness or just jump into this and hope for the best. All the struggles that I and my husband went through the financial and emotional stress, our child went through too. Not to mention that your so young and you haven't explored the world or yourself. You would not be selfish to give your child for adoption in fact the opposite would be true. So I think you should hold off don't rush into marriage and settle just because you can. You wont be doing anyone any favors by rushing into a marriage and barley getting by. On the other hand if you really love each other and are positive you can send that rest of your life together and give your baby everything that it deserves then I wish you all the best

hi im 24 and already with 4 kids i had my 1st at 15 2end 16 3erd 16 and i just had my 4th 6 mos ago so im telling you one is not so bad, it may get hard at times but aslong as you have you family and friends your boyfriend there that support you thats a good your lucky becuse i dident have all that so your lucky you know just plan your next one finsh collage well good luck be strong take care

you kno.. i had my little girl a month after i turned 15 then when a month b4 i turned 17 my aunt had another kid and i started taken care of her full time and now im having a lil boy in july.. im only 18 years old.. things will work them selfs out.. its hard.. it takes alot.. but no matter wat you can do it.. jus gotta think of hte positive