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I need help! By Deelovesdisco 2 Months, 1 Week Ago I'm currently writing this from my sisters, because I was THROWN out of my house by my dad. I was fighting with my stepmother after she threw a picture of Marlie away. I was so angry I just started yelling at her and my step-mom called me a bitch. When my dad came in she started yelling at him that it was her or me. He got really mad at me and started yelling at me like it was MY fault that SHE was giving HIM an ultimatum. I told him I didn't want to live there anymore and he said he was glad because all I did was be a burden on him and to leave his house. My older sister who's 23 offered to take me and Audrey in. I'm so mad!! I'm heartbroken over this because my dad and I were so close when I was younger.
I'm also extremely heartbroken over my ex boyfriend, who tried to kill himself. He's had problems with depression in the past but it was never this bad! I have no idea what to do! Help!!!!
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Re:I need help! By Nonny 2 Months, 1 Week Ago Hi Dee,
I imagine it was a terrible scene and very upsetting for you. Throwing away Marlie's picture was disrespectful and, of course, you would be upset. Your emotions are naturally on a roller coaster. How could they not be, after all you have been through? We can't know what someone else is going through or what kind of day they had. They don't know how you are feeling and, by the same token, you don't know how they are feeling. Whether you, your Dad or step-mother or all three of you had a headache, were over-tired, worried or just plain crabby, any combination of those mixed with anger is a disaster waiting to happen. Unfortunately, it did and then escalated into a major shout-out. Anyone coming into a situation with hollering and arguing and name calling going on is bound to be thinking, "Good Lord, what's going on now!?" And, on top of that, to be given an an ultimatum, I guarantee, no one will react well or be in a good mood. In reading your post, I noticed you said you told your Dad you did not want to live there. Now , I must tell you in all honesty, as a parent, my response would have been, "Okay, then leave! You are driving me nuts!" In that context, to say you have been thrown out is a little harsh. It's time for a cease fire, take a deep breath and don't rehash it over and over. When you do that it's like wrapping up garbage and carrying it around with you everywhere you go. The next day you unwrap it, look at it and it smells worse than than the day before, so you wrap it up and carry it some more and every time you open it up it smells worse and worse. Do yourself a favor throw the garbage of the argument away. Cut your Dad some slack, do it for YOUR sake and for Audrey's sake. It's okay to say, "Dad, I was hurt and upset, we had an argument, but know that I love you and I know you love me." The fact is arguments happen. Every family has their moments. It's a given. Adam and Eve had the first dysfunctional family and it's been passed down every generation since. I am not taking sides, not down-playing what happened and not excusing anyone. I have no intention of doing that. However, if you feel the hostility is such that it's unhealthy for you and Audrey, don't go back to live there. Hopefully you, your sister and Dad and step-mother will be able to heal the hurt. Forgiveness, understanding and peace are beautiful words and can heal a hurting heart. As for your ex-boyfriend, it isn't up to you to do anything but pray for him. He has to get help. A person suffering from depression so deep that he attempts suicide needs professional assistance from someone qualified in that field. I will keep all of you in my prayers. Nonny
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Re:I need help! By lilyA 2 Months, 1 Week Ago few questions
have you and your stepmother ever gotten along well? and about the ex-boyfriend Are they going to send him to a suicide prevention program? First things first I'm going to put on my motherly advice suit Okay first things first its about you! This might seem weird and conceited or just phony advice but you can't take care of anyone else until you can take care of yourself. Forget about the ex for now! thats should be the least of your worries. The baby that you have now is prized so just put that incident behind you. Does you stepmother basicly control your father? ANOTHER THING, have you ever had a fight with a person and basicly just blow up, people just say words maybe out of confusion or out no self control but they just say them and they can mean nothing! Stay with your sister and just chill life is life and there are bumps along the way and if not expeianced you just live for this perfect life with blinders until one day they take them off and your blinded and break down. take the good with the bad
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Re:I need help! By Deelovesdisco 2 Months, 1 Week Ago To LilyA: No, I've never gotten along well with my step-mother. She's always said things like "another two years and I won't have to deal with you anymore."
About my ex: I'm not sure if they are, but I haven't asked. It's hard to forget about my ex because he's the father of my baby and I don't want her to grow up without him. My step-mom is kind of took over my dad's life and it seem to me like she controls him. I've always had a good temper and I'm not the yelling type, so it suprised everyone! I'm still living with my sister because my dad won't answer my calls. -Dee
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Re:I need help! By Nonny 2 Months Ago Hi Dee,
I am sorry to hear you have been unable to make contact with your Dad. I had so hoped for a different outcome. I wonder, from the description of your dad's wife, if perhaps, she is a very insecure woman who feels threatened by you and by your sweet baby girl, Audrey. If she is the type who needs to be in control of everything and everyone, it is best that both you and Audrey are with your sister. She has certainly made it quite clear by her comments that she wants you gone. Going so far as to throw Marlie's picture out underscores that fact. It would not surprise me in the least, to learn she had manipulated your Dad's understanding of what happened to put herself in the right and you in the wrong. Your father sees her in a totally different light which makes for a difficult problem, one that is hard to overcome. What advice has your sister given you about this. Since she has the advantage of 'on the scene experience' with your step mother and dad, what does she advise you to do? Would it help if she spoke with him? I hope you are able to contact different agencies and get assistance for yourself and Audrey. You certainly have your heart and hands full at the moment. I hope Audrey's father will seek treatment and be a healthy part of her life. I will keep you in my prayers, Nonny
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Re:I need help! By Aliele 2 Months Ago oh sounds bad, im sry bout ur dad, seems she has him whipped in a bad step mom way. just be better then what he and she thought, seems ur doing ok with ur son so... find a job, do everything u can to make that lil boys home better then what urs is now. show them u didnt need there help to make it, ur a strong woman and can make it, since ur sister is so nice to, she can help u save and do great to. she seems good so dont take advantage but use her house as free rent but work ur but off to do great for him ok.
im sure u can do it if u set ur mind to it and get money worked out ur dad will beg to be ur best friend again because he was wrong. give it time and work ull do great and im sure ur sister will help. sry bout ur ex to. show him it ok and ur there for him if u care about him that much that is good luck
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