Is anyone else going through the pregnancy by themselves, or went through one already. I just kicked the father out of my apartment. I still love him but i cannot deal with the lying and cheating...it just stresses me out and i know its not good for the baby. Now that he left i feel even more stressed because i'm not with him and cry constantly...someone please tell me it gets easier!!!

Oh my dear...it will get easier. You are correct in not having someone there that is only causing you major upset. And you have no reason to tolerate lies and cheating. Yes you are sad right now.You have every right to be sad and cry. But then, I want you to pull up your boot straps, "cowboy up" as they say, and remember you are beautiful, you have a precious life growing inside you and you must take care of the two of you.
Hopefully you and the daddy can get to a point where you can discuss the baby and what is best for the baby. Staying with someone for the baby's sake is not the thing to do. You can still be two functioning parents apart from each other.
How far along are you? Will he be a part of this babe's life?
In the meantime, you are all that baby needs right now. You are it's incubator. He/she is in you and you need to keep it's home free from as much upset as possible.
Dry those tears. Think happy thoughts and wonderful timesyou will be having with your new babe.
Take care,
Susie

Honey, things will get easier with time. I was 4 months pregnant when this ones father and I broke up. He cheated on me throughout our whole relationship. I cried non-stop until about 2 months ago. I am now with someone else. Of course I still love him but I accepted the fact that he wants no part in his child's life. Im not saying thats the case with you, but I know its hard. Hopefully, things will come back together for you. The farther along you get, the more you will concentrate on the baby, and he wont matter as much. Good luck, keep your head up and keep smiling. Stay positive.

Heres the abbreviated story.

When we met i knew he was married and his wife was pregnant. He said that the only reason that they were together was for teh baby and they were going to divorce the birth of their 2nd child. I didnt believe it for a second..yet i was soo attracted (physically and emotionally) to this man that i ignored it. Ladies please dont judge me. I figured it was going to be a week fling or something. Anyways he ended up staying with me during the week for work and drove an hour and a half home on the weekends to take care of his daughter. I had heard them fight and argue on the phone in front of me..and i started thinking that they really were getting a divorce. When she finally found out about me, she told me that they were planning on working out their differences and having a perfect family. When i confronted him about it, he called her and said "the love has been gone for a while, i am going to be with Abby" I felt horrible, but the month that we had spent together was amazing. After that, he moved almsot the rest of his stuff to my place and stayed there, while occasionally going to see his daughter (she rarely let him) As if that isn't messed up enough, I never wanted kids..i pictured myself..MAYBE..when i was 30 having kids but not at 20. Anyways when i told him that i was pregnant, he was thrilled as i sat there and balled my eyes out. He told me we were going to get married and have a happy family blah blah blah. 4 months down the line, Pam (his wife) calls me and says that he is still telling her that he wants them to work things out. I don't know who to believe. I believe her because the things she knew HAD to have been told to her by "shaun". I flipped out obviously and kicked him out. He is still tells me daily that he wants to be with me and be active in the childs life but how do i know what to believe? This is getting a little long...sorry...but thanks for sticking in there if you have! Anyways he is at his house now, waiting for his son to be born, and then tells me that he is going to move to where i am moving so he can be a part of my pregnancy and the childs life...I cant handle this emotional rollercoaster anymore. Its driving me crazy!

I have not and will not pass judgement on you. Been there done it, or close to it.
Stay strong. Make him prove what he is going to do. If he moves to the same town as you, more power to him. Make sure you don't let his wife have your number.
He does not have to live with you. You do not have to sleep with him.
Make him put his actions where his mouth is. Do not rush anything.
be careful. Chances are if he cheats WITH you, then he will soon cheat ON you.

I told him that the only way i would consider working things out is if he moved by me. I am moving back in with my parents in a tiny town of like 1500 people so i will be able to save up some money for this unexpected baby. I think if he moves there it will definatly prove something...he will be one of the only black men in that crappy town! I guess its a waiting game now...Thanks a lot for everything!