I don't want to be nieve or ignorant to want is happening. My boy friend and I were living together for almost a year when I got pregnant, but as soon as I did things went really bad, (i'm now 19 weeks 3 days). He has since moved out and it's embarrasing to say that on Friday he took Everything from our apt and I slept on the ground. It really hurts me worse now to think that all of this is happening cause i'm pregnant? I spoke to someone who keep telling me that he would change and just as i'm going through the emotions and physical changes associated with the pregnancy so is he. But does it gets this bad and gets back better when the baby comes?

The reason I'm going on right now is cause I LOVE my baby soo much and also my God. On Saturday I had no where to go and God made it possible for me to stay at a friend. I cried later that day cause I was soo busy trying to organise cause the landlady wanted the keys the nite before and in the mist of all that moving it's only around 5pm I spoke with my baby and notice/acknowledge his kicks. I felt like a horrible mom and begged for his forgivness.

Would his dad ever come around and be the person I fell in love wit or do you guys think that this is it? Is this his pregnancy syptoms?

First of all, a good, supportive, mature father would never, ever leave his girl when she got pregnant. He would never take everything out of her apt and make her sleep on the ground. Good men do not do these things.

I will PM you about the other thing...

as hard as this may sound. that is no father figure. he should be ashamed himself and you shouldnt be begging for forgiveness it should be him. its a nasty thing he has done and he needs to work hard to get you back,

I am so sorry for your situation. You are NOT being a bad mom. Don't think that even for one second. He is being a bad Dad. You are taking care of yourself even though he is being a total A-hole. Don't worry, because your baby loves you very much, more than anyone in the world, because you ARE his world.

A lot of guys get freaked out but they still stick around. Your baby's Dad is acting weak and cowardly. He's not a man, because a real man doesn't leave his baby and make his baby's mom sleep on the floor. That makes me so mad!

I can't tell you what to do, but if it were me I would concentrate on creating a nice home and environment for the baby to come into, and on keeping myself and baby healthy.

Good Luck! We're all here for you.

DO NOT EVER THINK YOU'RE BEING A BAD MOM!! This is a man that you're supposed to be able to depend on and he walked out on that beautiful miracle growing inside of you and thats his loss. Your baby loves you and God knows your doing the best you can in your circumstances. He's being a bad father and when your beautiful baby gets here, stick his a** with so much child support so he'll wish he had never abandoned you!!

My fiance is bipolar and went through such a horriable mood swings while I was pregnant and even now. Its a rough time for them too, but if he's just being an asshole (like mine was) guilt trip him and give him the cold shoulder a bit.