[b]Thanks [: He has five years till he gets out. So I have sometime were I don't have to worry about him, but his mom, and his sisters is what worries me most. His mom is really sweet, and she's always up for going shopping just to get the baby stuff, she bought the crib, and bedding, and several blankets, bottles, breast pump things that I'll need,even when I tell her I don't really need her to buy anything, she does anyways. My next question would be..Should I let her be around the baby,when the baby is born, and for the remaining time that I'm in this state,so I'm not going to be around and neither is the baby, we'll live WAY far away, my parents don't want to deal with them trying to kidnap the baby or anything. So thanks for all your answers, and advice, : D I'm so thankful this site is around.[/b]

I would definitely say no to letting the dad come around at all. A father of course is very important for a child, but that is because of the love, the things he can teach and the example that he gives...and this guy would not be the kind of example I would want for my child. I think him being in the baby's life would be worse than no father at all.
I would feel very sorry for her if she is a girl, and he obviously has no respect for women, and even worse if he is a boy and that is the kind of man he teaches him to grow up to be. (His own mother thinks he should be able to see the baby, but she is bias and may not be able to understand what kind of a guy her son really is). When your child is older they may or may not desire to meet their birth father, and you may have another decision to make at that time.
For the near future, do you have a brother or your own father who could be a good male influence for your child to spend time with?
I'm sorry that you're in this situation, hang in there. I'll pray for you and the baby.

There is no way on God's green earth that I would let that pathetic excuse for a "man" near me or my baby. He gave up all parental rights the day that he decided to take away your right to consent to any person touching your body. I don't think there is a justice system out there that wouldn't grant you a Violence Restraining Order based on that disgusting act alone and then threatening the life of your child? What kind of person does that???? It makes me so mad to think there are people out there like that... Absolutley vile!

Ok now the matter of his mother and family having access to see your baby... This is tough because it wasn't them that hurt you directly but if this guy is capable of committing such acts, what kind of people brought him up that he would rape someone? I don't think I would personally be able to trust them... If you did allow them access I would make it supervised visits with a cop or something there... I'm so sorry that you are in this situation, I couldn't imagine how I would get through! You are very strong to be able to make it through every day and be there for your baby.

So in summary, I would NOT let that guy within 100 miles of my child and only supervised visits with his family.

I'm praying for you love...

KristyLee