I have notice that Mia has not been the same. She has cried more now than she ever has now that Ava is not here with us. When she wakes up in the morning she looks over to see if her sisters there and it makes me so sad. She does know that her sister is gone. What do I do? Her whole personality has changed and she has become a more fussy baby. How do I help her? Is my sadness rubbing off on her?

all i can say is sorry not really sure how to help i think with time it will get better but it is true that your stress can be picked up on by the infant

I don't think I could really help. But sorry for your loss. maybe spend more time with her.

All children, no matter how young, but mainly up until the teen years, have an exeptional ability to pick up on the feelings of their loved ones. When their mommy is happy, so are they, and it is the same with anger and sadness. Mia and Ava, by the picture, must have been twins. I am a twin myself, and no matter how much a bother my brother sometimes is or was, twinds always have a different connection than other siblings who are born separetely. Mia does know that Ava is gone, and yes, your sadness is almost definitely one of the causes of her personality change along with the levels in her fussiness.

The best advice I can give you, is that even though she is still so young, is to talk to her about it. Children worry more when they know feelings are being hidden, a week old or ten years old. I suggest holding her in your lap, perhaps on your legs holding her head if need be, and talking to her about Ava and how you feel. This may not only make her feel better, but you as well.

Also, let Mia have a toy or two of Ava's. You know, something she held a lot, what people may say "have her scent" on then. She may know Ava is gone, But it will secure her that she can remember her sister while she can.

A baby's mind, no matter what we think, does understand. As she gets older, don't forget to talk about Ava to her. Also, if you ever need to cry, or be upset out loud or openly, do it in a place where Mia isn't. Because if she hears you, she will be sad.

I hope this helps you. And I am truly sorry, my mother had a miscarriage at the beginning of her third trimester. Such is why I hold the name Abigail, it was going to be my "older" sister's name, and I proudly wear it. I do understand, and be stong, if not for yourself, but for little Mia.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't have any advice,but to just try to be there for her.

not a Mum, but you just have to be really strong for her..don't avoid telling Mia when she's older that she ever had a twin just because you don't want to think about it..since Mia is young, maybe you could bring her to a cosy corner and tell her Ava is now an angel..watching over her..or you could just point to Mia's and your heart, and tell her Ava is in there always by both of you..lots of love from us! be strong.