Hello,

Im 10weeks pregnant, Im Feel really depressed and Im not sure what to do. I want this baby so much, But since i found out i was pregnant things between me n the father havent gotten so bad we aren't together anymore.
Whhen I found out, I copped a lot of flack from His parents and they wanted me to have an abortion. Im in the process of getting my own place, a bigger one As i only live in a one bedroom unit with my lil brother. The inlaws even asked me if i was only having this child to get a bigger house coz their household can't sustain with me n another baby. Very Ridiculous coz i can get a place pregnant or not pregnant. The Father said he doesnt want to be with me, And blames me for all our problems, I honestly don't know what i've done wrong. I can't see any of my friends gay or not gay [males]. I have facebook and he demanded i close it down Or our relationship is over. I said no coz thats the only way i can keep in touch with old High school and primary School friends.

all i want to do is cry, I don't want to be alone raising this baby and i love the father Dearly, But he's just so over baring now. He's threatening to move to Cairns and live with this girl and guy. I just dont know what to do anymore, my mum says its for the best we aren't together coz he is quite Abusive. Not physically yet just a lil bit verbally. We have had good days and thats why i still want to be with him. I just don't want to lose my freedom. I don't feel anybody else will want me coz Im Pregnant and having someone elses child.

Im ready to just give up, On him, On Everything.

hunny if he treats you like that you and the baby are better off without him. im sure you'll be fine a lot of ppl do it alone i dont see a reason why you cant too you;ll be a good mum either way

if it's meant to be it'll be. you can do it alone and not every guy out there minds if you've already got a child. when you meet the right one, he'll take them in as one of his own. it's not healthy to be in a relationship where he doesn't want to participate. i would move along and be happy a/b the baby coming and the cute things it'll have. let him go and do his own thing...who knows, when the baby's born maybe he'll come around. if not, his loss, not your's. be strong! remember you'll have this little one in your arms calling you mommy and looking up to you! that's a blessing in itself

I'm totally with Steff. If he's that big of a jerk, he doesn't deserve you or the baby, and you are way better off without him. You CAN do it alone, so many other mothers (and fathers) have. Your mom is right, anybody who abuses you, physically or verbally, is a person you shouldn't be with.

I'm sure you'll be fine, and there are men who are loving and kind and don't care if you have a kid. THAT's who you want to be with. Someone who will accept you and the baby and trust you enough to be with your friends. He doesn't deserve you, and you deserve better.

Wether or not he "comes around" this guy is an abusive jerk. You need to get away as fast as you can. Thank the guy for donating his spunk, and tell him to hit the "F"ing road. You don't need someone telling you who you can befriend, where you can go, and what you can do. You don't need his unsupportive family making you feel like crap for not aborting your baby. You don't need him saying he will walk out if you don't do what he says. That is blackmail. Tell him you will send him the child support papers when the baby is born and then tell him to buzz off.

I think having this father around is probably worse than having none. The argument and abuse will not be healthy for your child. Don't be afraid to raise this kid on your own. You may be stronger than you think. Get close to your own family and friends to seek the proper help. Find the ones that truly care for you and you feel safe with. You are a grown woman who can make decision for yourself.