My parents divorced when I was 10. I live in Cali, my Dad now lives all the way in Florida. Of course my brother, sister and I all have our Dads' last name, but I don't see why. He used to come visit, or pay for us to fly out there, but he quit doing it a few years ago. He has really pushed my buttons. I've tried calling, he doesn't answer them. I email, he doesn't reply. My mom took him to court for child support when they divorced or whatever and he still pays for my brother and sister cause they aren't 18 yet. It sucks, cause I don't have a father figure in my life. My Mom has a boyfriend, that she's had for a few months but he's still "new" and it's not the same anymore I guess youu could say. I wanna tell my Dad I'm pregnant, but I can't cause he won't talk. And somehow I still LOVEEE my Daddy to death and I wanna see him, even though he's sucha a jerk to us kids now.

Anyways, I would definitely give her YOUR last name.
Take him to court for child support.
And go with your heart. You can't trust him to come see her or visit her, and help raise her so why bother with his last namee? Personally, I'd cut off all ties if your family is willing to help youu out. Single Mom's are the best Mom's
Good Luck.

xoxo,
Bree.

girl i dont know the whole sistuation but i had a kid at 15 and i gave her his name. Big mistake he does nothing with her and i was young and belived that he would stay but soon as i started to get fat he broke up wiyh me. Then he said he would pay i belived him and guesss what he didn't. Then at 19 i had a son and his father and i were engaed and again he left me. Soon I meet my husbend and we are going to have twins and im getting a divorce. Boy do i know how to pick em. any way i mean that i have been through it. Your name get it in writing go to court. Fallow your heart.
I wish you the best of luck and i hope it all works out.

*lili*
feel free to message me if you have any qustions or just wanna talk

I feel your pain but sadly with my babys father there is never gonna be a truce since he has all his friends telling him that I'm lying about him being the father. I left him when I was maybe 2 or so weeks pregnant and had no idea until later but he still insists that I knew and left to hurt him. He is also saying that I slept with a black guy from down the street when I was simply talking to a friend of mine that I hadn't seen in a while. I tried to do the "what he could afford deal" with baby things and I have yet to get a damn thing from him. I am due in January and I will be going to the lawyer for full custody and child support if he refuses to sign off his rights. I don't want my son to call my cell phone daddy and I won't have him coming around when it's convenient for him. It's either all or nothing. He asked if my son could have his last name and I said if you start actually trying to be a parent than I'll think about it. PS we haven't spoken in a month.

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I feel your pain but sadly with my babys father there is never gonna be a truce since he has all his friends telling him that I'm lying about him being the father. I left him when I was maybe 2 or so weeks pregnant and had no idea until later but he still insists that I knew and left to hurt him. He is also saying that I slept with a black guy from down the street when I was simply talking to a friend of mine that I hadn't seen in a while. I tried to do the "what he could afford deal" with baby things and I have yet to get a damn thing from him. I am due in January and I will be going to the lawyer for full custody and child support if he refuses to sign off his rights. I don't want my son to call my cell phone daddy and I won't have him coming around when it's convenient for him. It's either all or nothing. He asked if my son could have his last name and I said if you start actually trying to be a parent than I'll think about it. PS we haven't spoken in a month.

That sucks, Mine did the same thing. He kept saying I slept around and he swore the baby wasn't his. When we met the other day and talked, he said he knows I never cheated on him. He was just insecure because he cheated on me. I've already bought a lot of the things I'll need for her all on my own. I've been taking as much as I can afford and putting into the bank just for things I'll need for her. I know I'll be okay, and I won't need his money to help out. I've been looking at all my options and a family member suggested having him sign away his rights to her. So that way if I marry someone and they want to adopt her, they could without any problems. But I'm not sure what to do. Certain people said that I should let him around her, but he hasn't acted like he cares much. The other baby is 'always more important.'

i say make him pay through a agreement with child support or he will probably end up giving you nothing and that's not fair on you. if you wanna give him a chance to have something to do with the baby and he stuffs up at least when your baby older you can say you tried it was his fault. but i think if your nor together and he your not sure if hes gonna help support your baby and do the father thing give the baby your last name other wise you'll probably regret it later