okay so on my computer i my children all have accounts and my husband and i share an account. the kids who are 14 and 15 have parental controls on there accounts so they can't see anything with sexual content. my husband and i don't have this because if something is seen it was probably intentional lol. anyway this morning my husband and i took Mia and Lexi to a boxing day soccer game they wanted to play and Jordan wanted to stay home and play with the WII he got for christmas so we left and my husband mustn't have logged the computer out when we left because he has only been on facebook but when we got home Jordan came out and was all helpful with the grocery's and everything and very curious about Soccer which is not a sport he enjoys so it was unusual. then about 15 minutes ago i was looking in my history for a cooking website i found a few days ago and there were about 15 different pages that had been recently looked at that were all gay pornography sites. i do not want my son to be looking at this material should i clear the History so my husband doesn't find it? i haven't told him about the video i saw of Jordan kissing the other boys or of my suspicions i think its something i want him to find out from Jordan but i may need the sites when i ask him about them incase he just denies it and refuses to speak to me.. please tell me what to do, i never thought i would be in this situation. has anyone ever been in this situation before? or do you know anywhere i can look for help on this?

i will be eternally grateful for any help

well i have never been in this situation and i hope i never am but i think if you think his dad will take it badly you should delete history if he runs away and denies it he obviously isn't ready to talk to maybe just drop the subject and put a password protected parental blocker thing on there so you or your husband or whatever can still access what ever you want with a password you both know but your kids don't. this will stop him from being able to see this again... thats just what I would do although i have a long time before i even need to think about that mine aren't even here yet lol..

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mt parents and i have been in this situation with my younger brother my mum left in on told dad and then confronted my brother. my brother has done thing with guys but hes grown out og it he just experimented

I think that if you think his father will take it badly then you should delete it until you find a way to tell him. How old is your son? Is he the fifteen year old? Are you against homosexuals? If you aren't I think you should confront your son and tell him that your fine that he is homosexual but it's not appropriate for him to be watching porn on the family computer nor does porn convey what most adults in a, if not loving, respecting relationship do.

If you don't approve of homosexuals then I think that you should change your views because it's not worth losing a son over.

Also as steff.kim has proved- this might just be a phase. It's quite common for teenagers to be confused about their preferences and it might take a while for them to understand their sexual identity. You might just want to tell him that you're there for him to confide in, he needs to know that he's understood. I would make it short but full of info so that he doesn't end up getting mad in embarrassment and then I would carry on as usual, don't look at him weirdly or go on and on about it, just go on with your life as per usual and hopefully he will come to you or your husband.

Oh and good luck

no i am not against homosexuals or homosexuality i think that you love who you love and gender doesn't matter so as for my son all i want is for him to be happy and if he does tell me he is gay now but then in 15 years he falls in love with a woman i would look at both relationships the same way because my son would be happy.
my husband however doesn't exactly share my view point i brought it up one night when we were in bed talking and asked "how would you feel if one day Jordan or Mia or Lexi told us they were gay" and he just huffed and said " it better not happen" so i dropped the subject because i don't want to tell him about Jordan now especially when it may not even be true and could just be a phase. i don't know if my hisbad will take it well but he does love Jordan so much so maybe when actually faced with it he will get my his narrow mindedness.

yes Jordan is 15, he will be 16 in 2 days. and like i said my problem is the watching of porn not the homosexuality.

i talked to Jordan about it this morning and told him i found the sites on the computer and i disapprove of him looking at this material on the family computer especially when his sisters could accidentally come across it. he denied that it was him and got very embarrassed so i dropped the topic and told him there is nothing wrong with curiosity but just incase someone else decides to look at this kind of thing i was setting a password on the parental lock..

thank you all for your advice