Since your body isn't ready to have another kid for about a year, it's nothing to worry over now, and once Noah is through with the "goo coming out of every orifice" phaze, dad is going to enjoy him a lot more. I would bet dad will get the hunkering for another baby 3 or 4 months before Noah turns 2.

i would say don't let it worry you for a while yet.. when he gets older (about 2) your husband will forget how it is to have a little one because he will love having Noah and will probably be more open to the idea of another little one

Okay, good! I'm glad you're not that kind of person and want to stay with him and be a family! I hope I didn't offend, I just get really annoyed with people like that.

My husband (and a lot of men) just aren't into the little baby phase as much as the pal around/I can talk some/and walk some phase. Around 18 mon (baby, of course) my husband really gets a lot closer to each child. He says "you can tell they have a brain" (not being mean). So men like a toddler they can horseplay with, play funny games with, etc. So when your little one is bigger, he'll be doing that and probably think, "hey this kid needs a sibling and we can have even more fun; and the wife can do all that baby stuff while I take more care of the big one; etc". Best wishes!

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Okay, good! I'm glad you're not that kind of person and want to stay with him and be a family! :) I hope I didn't offend, I just get really annoyed with people like that.

My husband (and a lot of men) just aren't into the little baby phase as much as the pal around/I can talk some/and walk some phase. Around 18 mon (baby, of course) my husband really gets a lot closer to each child. He says "you can tell they have a brain" (not being mean). So men like a toddler they can horseplay with, play funny games with, etc. So when your little one is bigger, he'll be doing that and probably think, "hey this kid needs a sibling and we can have even more fun; and the wife can do all that baby stuff while I take more care of the big one; etc". Best wishes!

Hahaha yes! He says he can't wait until Noah is walking around and can play more. He's starting to enjoy Noah's constant giggling! Which is nice

And no, you didn't offend me just was making sure you didn't get the wrong idea of me!
Thanks for your responses it's something that has really been on my mind

I don't blame your husband not wanting another baby, when his newborn just arrived weeks ago. I, the mother, didn't even want to think about having anymore children when my son was that young. I even told my fiance that this kid is all we will have for the rest of our life, and my fiance was okay with it. Seriously a newborn could really devastate you physically and mentally.

But guess what, now my son is 14 months old, and I start getting jealous of my friends who are pregnant with their second child. And I can't wait to have a second one and third one when we become more financially stable. My fiance, who was also traumatized(haha, just exaggeration), is also welcoming the idea. But he says he will only agree to have the third one if things are still in control after the second one comes.

So you see? People's minds change constantly. One year later, your husband may have a completely different mind set about children. When he sees that lovely son of his grows everyday and start acting more like his buddy, he would wish to have more of that. Don't enforce the idea right now, because at this moment, all he probably can envision is three screaming organisms in dirty fabrics.

We've had breakthrough! lol

My partner randomly said to me the other night that he doesnt want to rule out the idea of more children I was soooo excited when he said this

Now that Noah is 4 moths old, i think he is having more fun with him he has realised how much Noah loves him, as he stares, smiles and giggles at him

Of coarse, not for a few years yet... but YAAAAAAAAY!