Well, I think you should just give him another talk like on safe sex. Lots of teens these days are sexually active. I'm not saying it's okay for you're son to do that but you can't tell him not to have sex, it's a part of life. Also, don't tell him that you saw because that would just make him feel embarassed and awkward. Just tell him to always use a condom and use safer sex practices. Hope this helped!!!!

Sorry to barge into this conversation. When I was 16, I told my mom that I was having sex. She asked so I told her. Now the way she handled it was to go and buy us condoms. Think about it this way....more than likely they will have sex whether you think that it is ok or not. Now do you want them to have it unprotected?? My mom looked at it that way. Now if you do not feel comfortable with it being in your house, I understand that one, let them know that as long as they are there together his bedroom door can not be shut unless there are multiple people in the room with them. I am 28 now, married, have a 3 1/2 boy, preggo with our 1st daughter. I will raise them with this same view. Just remember teenagers will do what they want, no matter what you say, all you can do is protect them the best you can. By telling them not to have sex or drink alcohol, they will want to do it more because you told them not to. I grew up a very responsible teenager and adult. I hope that you sons will do the same!!

They're going to do i wether you like it or not... going on the rampage and getting angry about it won't solve the problem at all.
I know the thought of you son having sex at all is just unimaginable but the fact is that its happening.
Sit him down and have a mature adult conversation, buy him condoms but don't treat him like a child and ground him or ban him from seeing her because that will make him resent you and might cause him to rebel.
By the sounds of it, you know her whole family and the girl well and wouldn't you rather your son have sex with a girl you know well and like rather then some random chick in the back of a car because he feels like rebelling against his mother.

I know its tough, but it was bound to happen one day!!

Just telling a child, "don't do it" is not enough. We have to explain why. You said you've had the talk with him. Did you explain all the consequences of pre-marital sex? Like how there is no such thing as "safe sex" outside of marriage because condoms fail 15% of the time? And how there is right now 25 different types of STDs going around, including HIV/AIDS? And then there's the chance of getting pregnant, of course. And chances are, this is not going to be the girl he marries one day. 16 year olds just don't usually date someone they're going to marry. So that means he will be dating other girls, and you don't want him doing this with all of his girlfriends! I am not saying to get angry and blow up at him, but sit down and have a reasonable conversation with him. I would NOT tell him it's okay and give him condoms. That is not healthy. He needs to know the truth. Kids are being lied to everyday about "safe sex". And think about it... there is big bucks being made off of this...all these so called "safe sex" products have a built-in failure rate, and they get away with it, while the people who depend on them do not! Please encourage abstinance. They don't need to be left in situations where something like that could continue to happen. When teens become sexually active, they begin to spend less time getting to know each other emotionally and more time being sexually active. This is one reason so many teens break up after they become sexually active. And today's teens are being told by the media, music, movies, friends, etc. that sex is okay for anyone that wants to do it. It's not! It is for married couples, and it's that way for a good reason. There is a book I have been reading myself, and I would highly recommend it to you- Pure Excitement, A Godly Look at Sex, Love, and Dating by Joe White. It will give you some really good advice, believe me. Alot of teens may do it anyway, but we can't just sit by and say it's okay. And that is exactly what we do when we hand them birth control! It gives them the message that their parents are okaying it! It is only making matters worse! Please teach them to respect themselves by saving themselves till marriage. Even if they have had sex before, they can stop what they are doing and still wait till marriage. You are the parent, you are in control. And one other question, does this girl's parents know? If not, they need to.

Thanks, Nonny. I wish more people could see it. Sex has ALWAYS been a temptation for teens. I know, because I have talked to my dad, my grandmother and other older adults. It's just that it's become a big problem because our society began accepting it! It used to not be that big of a problem when our parents and grandparents were growing up because they were taught it was wrong. And teens were taught self-control. And they weren't handed out birth control! And the media didn't promote it! You didn't hear about teen pregnancy then like you do now, but like I said, they were taught it was wrong and it was not accepted. Let us go back to that, let the media quit promoting it, and a lot of problems would be solved. But as long as we are handing out the birth control, it's going to continue to be a problem.