Lily,
NO I am not saying that at all!!! Believe me!! I have nothing but respect for you and what you have done to help her!! My mom basically did the same thing with me and my husband (at the time boyfriend). He could not stand his mother's negativity so he moved in with my family! Keep up the good work!!
These other posters need to come to the realization that teens are going to do what they want and pushing no sex till marriage, I believe is not the way to go. I believe in explaining it and advising to do so, but to harp on it, will make the teen rebel!