you have no right to say that! thats really hypocritcal,if you have kids your just saying your kids are just messed up as everyone else unless your going to include them! thats really insulting to me, i know my son whos 16 is a great kid with no spankings, i was raised pasafist and my children are being raised pasafist and so will the generations to come will be pasafist!

I was spanked. Most of us were probably spanked. We lived. Our parents loved us. HOWEVER, I can't think of a more ridiculous and rotten thing to do to your child! It is so horrible to me. I mean, the message is clear: I can only think of hitting you, to get you to stop what you are doing. That's all you've got? Come on! It also says: I will hit you and it's ok to hit to get what you want. But don't you DARE hit anyone, or you are in big trouble. Confusing! You teach your kids to use words and other strategies to solve problems. YOu expect your kids to do that, right? And they are not even grown enough to reason like we can! But we don't expect the same from ourselves? You shame your child by doing the "unthinkable" thing you would never let them to do anyone. You are telling them that they are the exception. That they are so bad, that they are worthy of a spanking????? Huh? "Loving spanking" is the oxymoron of the century. Sorry.

If it ain't broke, don't fix it: pain is nature's mechanism of saying "WRONG!" Ever touched a hot stove and got burnt? It should only be used it when necessary, that is.

Sometimes a 'stern look' or a 'scolding' is not enough.

Pray tell, what is this so called 'loving spanking?' Some sort of S/M fetish?

Also, these parents with their passive-aggressive talks... aren't they just as unruly as those who are spanked?

i'm not passive at all with my kids....i went to school basicly to do this! i'm up front about it and in their face about it..if they do something wrong they get in trouble

I think it depends from one child to another. All children are different and will respond differently to cosequences. Some children will not respond to timeout but will to a spanking, but I beleive a spanking must not be out of rage and it must not be a habit or a reflex, which to many times it is.

I just wanted to say one more thing, there is a big difference in a spanking and beating your child.


and for notachildbeater, the questions at the end of your reply were ridiculous. People are merely stating how they feel about the subject, and your sarcastic remarks should be saved for yourself.