I have a big problem. My oldest son, Rowan is 16 and he's been dating a very nice girl named Ashleen for about a year. She's a very nice girl and spends so much time at our house that she is practically my own daughter! I've let her stay overnight and she always sleeps in the attic/guestroom. I Ash's mother recently left her and her father and her father has taken to drinking. Ash has been spending a lot of time at our house and my son asked if she could move in. I trust them both impicitly but I'm still a little worried. I called her father and he said it would be easier for him. Her grandparents on both sides passed away and she has no where else to go. They promised that they wouldn't have sex (They both wear purity rings) I would love to let her move in but I think some objective opinions would be nice. Thanks!!!
**Elisa**

(I forgot to add, My daughters Imogen and Isolde adore her, she's like their sister)

I would!! Honestly would you want her staying with her drunk father? She will have more of a stable home with you. I would sit them both down and make sure that they are ok with it. Remind them that actually living under the same roof may cause them to argue more. Now if for some reason they break up, is it still ok for her to stay?? Ask them that. I am completely for parents helping out other children when times get rough at home!!

ahhh your story sounds so much like mine...depends what kind of kids they are, read the sex blog above i'm lilyA our stories our identical lets talk!

she's lived with us for a year and i still get nervous! his girlfriend wears a purity ring (because she s a Jonas Brother fan) and he doesnt! so do i get nervous yes, but it isnt life until your nervous

Lol. So true, LilyA. I was just wondering, did you sit your kids down and lay down some ground rules? If so, how did you go about it? I'm definitely leaning towards yes, I mean she always offers to help me around the house and cook and things. For my birthday she actually baked me cupcakes. In a way, I'm more of a mother than hers ever was.

Hello, i don't think you should let her move in. It's one thing to help her out, wuite another to make yourself responsible for a a child that is not yours. Help her find some other place to live. Honestly, your sixteen year old son should neve be asking you whether his girlfriend can move in. Purity rings come off as fast as they came on. Beyond that, this is not your problem. Help her find a place to live, but do not take responsibily for other people's children. If it is just for a day or two fine, but no longer than that.