I have a 4 year old son and a one YO baby, the big brother is annoying the baby as much as possible, i want to stop it but in an elegant manner so they wont hate each other later one, any tips ?

if u want the big brother to stop but u can do is give the big brother candy if something soo he will be nice to the baby

Someone else on this site told me to encourage the older one by talking to him about what a big boy he is now and talk about the things he can do that baby can't do yet..."baby can't do this yet, but you can help show him how to do it one day"... my post was 17 month old jealouslyif you want to find it and see what all she said.

I no this is'nt exactly ummm. upto date but while i was little my brother picked on me alot i mean pulling hair stealing toys and wanted everything i had but now i could'nt imagine a brother and sister closer, he was always there for me and looked after me, we spent lots of time together and still go out for meals to this day.

So don't worry about it they will grow out of it just give it time and don't let him think that he is being left out.

i had kids close together and they naturally want to help, so let them...
im dont like the bribery technique, especially candy...
give him small jobs like holding a foot when u change a diaper even helping to burp or bathe baby, if he is shown how to help in a posative way, he may be less inclined to "annoy" tthe baby just to interact with it..
or ((most dads dont like this idea)) get him a baby doll, it doesnt have to b a girly one , "baby borns" come in boys too with all the male parts, and he could mimic you when u care for baby...

just make him feel involved and appreciated as a big brother, he might just surprise you...

hopei have helped some

Seaason

He is doing that because he is jealous.

You should always make some time to bond with your older son without the baby around everyday, even if its only for 20 minutes.

One weekend, you should take a few hours to take your son out and have fun with him (Leave the baby with your parents or somebody you trust, if possible.)

Reassure him that you love him just as much as the baby.

Tell him that you had a baby to give him a friend and that he shouldn't be mean.

You should also try to get your son involved with caring for the baby in a fun way. Have him watch you change the baby, and possibly have him choose an outfit for the baby and hand it to you. Etc etc etc....

Don't worry, he'll love the baby eventually. All kids are a little jealous at first.

My son was 2 1/2 when I got pregnant with my daughter. I told him from the very beginning that he was going to be a big brother and I got him very involved in decorating the nursery, buying baby clothes, etc.
He was very excited during my pregnancy, and as my belly got bigger and bigger, he would hug it and kiss it and talk to the baby. When the baby finally came (he was three years old), I expected him to be happy and excited because he was during my pregnancy, but he was actually a little put off by the baby. I don't think he realized that I would have to spend a little more time with the baby than with him. But I reminded him about all the fun we had preparing for the baby and I reminded him that he was excited and used to kiss, hug, and talk to my belly.
I got him very involved in caring for the baby, and I would take some time off to spend time with just him. After just about 2 weeks, he got used to the baby and grew to love her. He became very caring and overprotective of her (at only 3! it was sooo sweet) and he still is today (he is now five, and my daughter 2). And now I have another little girl on the way (she is due next week) and both of my children are excited.