I have an almost 5yr old daughter and im now expecting my 2nd daughter in december. Ayla (the 5yr) was the first grandchild on both sides of the family and has been somewhat spoiled. Ive only recently told her that she will be having a little sister soon and she doesnt seem too fussed with the idea. Im pretty sure she understands what im telling her but she is having mixed emotions about it i think, sometimes she is happy about it saying she will have another kid to play with and other times she doesnt even want to know about it. I would just like some hints and advise on how to deal with this. Much apprieciated

Actually, my advice to you would be, Don't make children deal with adult issues. This is really an adult issue. You have already discussed the baby with her, now she just needs some time to deal with it on her own. Just listen for her questions, and answer, short and sweetly, only with basic answers to her basic questions. Leave it alone, and enjoy being pregnant. She will notice your body changing, and as long as you continue to praise her, whenever possible, like when she gets you a glass of water, or a piece of fruit, so you can feed the baby in your tummy. I would also suggest, read story books, about baby animals, talk about story, new baby books are plentiful. Read, and talk. Always make her feel special too, and include her in shopping for baby. Paint baby room together. Make it fun.

Genevra

I think Genevra says it all. THat's great advice. I just don't know if she should help paint the baby's room...It could be a little difficult for you to focus on Ayla AND try to concentrate on getting the work done. But I think she could take part in decorating the baby's room. For example, you could ask her opinions on what colours, theme, furniture, etc that should be in the room. But if you disagree with her opinions, at least get one reasonable and affordable item that she chooses so that she feels like a part of this change and that change can be a good thing.

you ask ayla what she would name the baby

Take Genevra's advice. It is a tricky situation, but I'm sure the outcome will be fine. Try to include Ayla in the pregnancy, and see all the good sides, without bringing her into the adult side of it. When my aunty was pregnant with my cousin, she was in the same situation. We gave her a book called something like 'There's a house inside mummy' or something, and they read it together often. I wish you three all the best!