well said season and Brieal. I agree with you guys

No offense, but I would never cheat on my husband and I would NEVER forgive my husband if he cheated on me.

I admit I was quite the cheater back in the day. I would get bored of men very easily and I cheated on every single boyfriend I had from the time I was 16-20. I didn't feel wrong doing it because I was young and didn't consider my relationships serious.
But then I met my husband who blew me off my feet. I fell in love with him and NEVER got the urge to cheat. We got married after only dating for 6 months and we had our first child a year later.

My point is..... Its NOT acceptable to cheat once you've fallen in love and made a commitment to somebody. You had all the time in the world to "test the waters" when you were younger BEFORE settling down and having children.

Its simply not acceptable. I bet you don't have an excuse, either. I can understand some men who cheat because their wives never want to have sex with them (maybe once every two months if they are lucky), But even then in THAT situation that the man just couldn't control himself anymore and needed a release that his wife wouldn't provide, I still think that's WRONG and he should talk to the wife first. Communication is very important.

Anyway, If my husband cheated on me, I'd take the kids and move far, far away where he could only see them a few times per year. I know its mean because he loves the kids and is a good father regardless of what happened between him and I, but I wouldn't be able to stand to be around him and I honestly wouldn't want my kids to be around him very often to witness his lifestyle and grow up thinking relationships are meaningless and that its okay to cheat.

wow. if neither of you are mature enough to provide a stable life for these girls, someone else should have them. someone who can provide the model of a stable home where they dont have to worry about which parent is cheating today. sadly, thats not the way things work. what you need to do is not worry about this Danielle (its not yours if she knows already, sorry) and you need to get down on your hands and knees and beg for forgiveness, not just from the lady, but especially for what your doing to your kids. you need to commit yourself fully and completely to making these kid's lives better rather than making more kids. think about what this is doing to them, and how you can make it easier. it does not matter if she apologises or not, this is not about you anymore... your post sounds very self-cenetered, and you are the last person in the world you should be worrying about.

sorry if that sounds rude, it is my blunt, uncensored opinion.

Thanks Genevra. I kept it short, sweet, and simple. Not a mile long, is the trick (usually).

SadDad wrote:

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Hello im here to ask.. Im a dad heres my problem....
Today i said a final goodbye to my girls as they drove of with Asha(their mum and my ex)
We had a fight and now i will probaley never see them again:(
Im not allowed to see them now. My 2 girls (CLaire ,11, and Lucy ,9,).
Before they left i promised to pay All Claires Drama fess from now on and ALL Lucys gymnastics fees (also from now on)
Should i be doing this?
And Danielle my secondary school girlfriend reappeared and we did sertain things:blush: (this is why me and Asha spilt up)
Before i continue im not a 2 timer. A few days ago Asha went of with a guy one night and her mate told me secretly and i didnt dunp her because i loved her and you know to sort of give her a second chance. But then came along Danielle and then i just had to get pay back (and becuase i still loved Danielle from the past).
Well now Danielles pregnant we can not tell yet if its mine of not because she says its too early.
Shall i go with her even if the babys not mine?
Confusse ex-dad.:S

Wow...you all have problems.

But anyways, You will be able to see your daughters, the courts will decide how much. Yes, you should pay child support...again whatever amount the courts tell you to.

I don't think you want me to comment on the Danielle situation