My mom was physically abusive, she threw me down five flights of stairs,it was all because, I was getting more attention then she was. And she ended up running off, because she thought she wasn't a good mom to us, and in the end she started doing drugs, I barely EVER saw her. In my opinion don't leave your kids, maybe get a babysitter, go out with your husband, or whatever. and just have fun relieve the stress, and then on weekends, do some fun activities with them. They'll love you. You'll end up loving them, have talks with them, if you want alone time, say so. Let them know how you feel. If you have anger. Don't take it out on your kids. Bad thing to do, I hate my mom to this day, and I'm pretty sure she hates me. I swear when I have my baby, I won't EVER be like my mom. I hope I'll be way better.

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My Mom left me and my two sisters and I hate her for it. She was still around and got us on the weekends but everything was about her and still is. We grew up being her parent instead of her being ours. Now she is doing the same thing to my little sister and brother she had after she divorced my dad....Suck it up and stop being so selfish...You have babies to care for and love its not about you anymore...You should have closed your legs while you were ahead of yourself...sorry to be so blunt and rude but seriously those babies need you more than you need them....I cant believe people sometimes...you have beautiful healthy children and you just want to leave them?? I couldnt imagine not being with my daughter every single day its a scary thought....they need you!!!!!!!

could nt have said it better myself

Seaason

Wow. This is honestly difficult for me to read. I mean i've taken care of my siblings all my life. Once i moved out i vowed not to have children until later, but i ended up pregnant like 6mths after i left. However i found it as a blessing and i love children. I was 18 when i got pregnant. Now i am 20 and wanting another.
Honestly reading this sort of made me choked up. Perhaps its not you hate having children but that you need a break. My dad left me when i was 2years old and never had anything to do with me much after that. && I HATED HIM FOR IT. and i still do. it messed my life up, always wondering why wasnt i good enough for daddy to stick around? I dont think you should give up on your children. Maybe you just need to get away for a weekend, and then maybe you will realize how much you miss and need your children as much as they need you!

Ok here goes it. i got prego dec of 2002 had my son sept of 03 turned 21 oct of 03. i feel your pain and have sruggled with the mommy thing. your not a bad mom if you tell you self that long enough you will begin to hate your self. yes the truth hurts so here it goes...GROW UP! YOUR KIDS NEED YOU, REGARDLESS IF YOU WANT TO BE THERE OR NOT YOU ARE NEEDED THERE. IF YOU LEAVE AND WALK AWAY FROM IT BECAUSE YOU CANT DEAL WITH IT YOU ARE SHOWING YOUR KIDS THAT ITS OK TO GIVE UP WHEN THINGS GET HARD. THINK BACK THROUGH HISTORY AND THINK WHAT IF EVERYONE WHO TRIED AND COULDNT HANDLE IT GAVE IT? WE ALL BE SPEAKING LIKE THE BRITISH IN AMERICA, SLAVES WOULD STILL BE AROUND AND THE NATZIS WOULD HAVE TAKEN OVER. YOU ARE A MOTHER FIRST AND FOR MOST IN LIFE. try talking to a professional get your kids involved and their dad. let everyone know how you truely deep down feel. the people that love you will be there to help up out of your hole. join a mommy group, make play dates, take some parenting classes, or stress classes. if money is tight alot of them will be willing to help you with that to, some employers will even pay to send you if its affecting your work life. you need help. it kinda sounds like post partum that never got treated. find help hun.

All I wanna say is that selfish people often end up sad and alone because they can't empathise with anyone else. Stop thinking about yourself for a change, build a bridge and get over the fact that you "resent" your children. They didn't ask to be your children and they certainly don't deserve to be verbally and physically abused! Fine, leave if you want your cycle of self loathing and selfishness to carry on to another generation but if you think life is going to be better for your girls if you walk out, think twice. GET OVER YOURSELF AND START BEING A MUM!

I am outraged at most of these answers.They are correct in saying that this is your fault, that you are being selfish and that you should have to deal with the consequences of your actions. However I think they were forgetting the fact that you openly admitted the abuse towards your children, both physically and mentally. They are making this about you, when it is not. It's not about PUNISHING you by you staying there, it's about helping those little girls by STOPPING the abuse. Get out, for as long as it takes for you to get help --even if it is forever. Trust me posters, once she's gone, she will get her punishment. You're worried about them hating you?? It's not about you. And they will hate you even more for continuing the way that you have been. I was a child of abuse. My mother gave my sister full custody of me -- and got the help that she needed. Now that she is a Grandmother, she's finally ready to be a mother. I grew up a healthy, independent woman. I respect her for her decision to give me a change to live a happy, normal life. In her care, I would not have had this chance. Please don't let the other's guilt you into staying. This could do great damage to those girls. You will know when you're ready. Please...I know you love your children. Give them a change to live.