I agree with Season...."Daddy and I have our bed, you have your bed" is kind of my motto when i have kids.

And like someone else said...it's a bad habit...once it's started its hard to break.

My 1 year old sleeps in my bed. Our place has only two bedrooms. I think she's too young to share a room with her crazy older sisters. So I'm squashed between her and my husband. I plan to get her a fold away bed or something so she could continue to sleep in my room but have her own bed. I'm sick of her being in my bed. She sleeps wild. Some mornings I find her at the foot of the bed or practically underneath me. I'm getting bigger so I need more room to toss and turns during those endless sleepless nights. Also I'll be tried and damned to have four people in my bed once the baby is born. I don't like cribs and I don't have room for a crib so the baby will be sleeping with me. That stupid mangy furball of a cat tried to sleep in my bed, purring all in my ear when I'm sleeping. He now finds himself locked up in the bathroom every night. I'm having neither feline or offspring in my bed. As my kids would say, "No, that's mine."

I don't think it is a good idea either. My husband is a police officer and has had to attend training on the dangers of sleeping with and infant. Therefore, as a baby Morgann was allowed no where near our bed. As a toddler, I have caved a couple of times do to exhaustion, but the general rule is she sleeps in her own bed.

My 19 month old son sleeps in his own bed, but in the morning he can crawl in bed with me and get some more sleep. I think that it is best for a kid to sleep in his/her own bed, but it does not hurt to bend the rule once in a while as long as it does not become a habbit. If you start them sleeping in their own bed while they are still babies, it is MUCH easier then trying when they are older.

Yes your son should be sleeping in his own bed. I agree with EmbersMommy. You might want to read the book Babywise and other books by the same author. These books by this author would help answer your questions. I know a sick baby can make bad habits which are hard to break. You can sometimes get copies of these books at your public library, online or local bookstore.

Since he is used to sleeping in your bed, he will want to sleep there all the time.

But, that really can't happen, and we all know that, right? A child of ten sleeping in your bed will get a tad monotonous.

The best way to make ssure he knows which bed and room (which you've made for him) is his, is to help him know.

During the day play with him in it. If he takes a nap, try coaxing him to sleep in his bed. You can even try using the words "big boy bed", even if it is still a crib, since he will be a "big boy" if he sleeps without mommy and daddy.

But, the hard part will come at nighttime. You will have to be one heck of a strong parent and resist the impulse to run into his room and scoop him into your arms.

The best way (which I have seen proven and have proven on more than one occasion) is to go through all the normal bedtime routines, bring him into his room, place him into his crib and tuck him in. You then have to leave his room, and possible shut the door if possible.

I say be a strong parent, because once the fact that he has to sleep in his crib by himself hits home, he will start to cry. I don't know what kind or level of crying your son does, but most times it is at a pretty high decible, and a lot of wailing is included. If he says mommy already, he will call for you.

This isn't in any way going to effect the next day, or how he feels about you and how he feels you love him. The end result is he will cry himself to sleep.

Sooner or later, but hopefully sooner, he will realize he likes his own special bed, and possibly even likes not having grown-up sized people sleeping around him threatening to squash him! (That's most kid's mindset when they grow older, that their mom or dad will smush them when they are asleep.)

I know it will be really hard to leave him in there, it always is. But this process usually only takes two or three days, depending on how thorough you are.

Also, important note, DO NOT open his door for any reason (or enter his room). This will just add to the lenght of the time you have to listen to him crying, but also, when you give in to him asking for water, for you to come see him, or for a story to be read, it shows him that he can do whatever he wants, anytime he wants.

All feelings aside, it isn't bad for a child to sleep in your bed, no matter how old (at leaast to a reasonable age). Nightmares, thunderstorms, broken heaters, anything really can be a reason. But, it isn't good for them to sleep in your bed every night. There is no way to be biased on this subject, only because people are raised differently, and therefore believe different things about raising their kids.