Before i say anything i want to get something straight *i do not want attention just advice, im not trying to brag i only want help because i don't know who to turn to*

Around 8 years ago when i was 20 i was working as a trainee nurse and got friendly with a man who was 66 and had sevre heart problems when 4 years later i quit to become a Sahm but still on his request visited him at his home and we became like the best of friends since he had no family or friends this ment a great deal to him and he loved my boys and could'nt wait to see them (we visited him nearly everyday) and we talked about how i would like to move somewhere nice to bring up the children (he had a son around 40 which they never spoke)he lived in a nice house which obvouisly he had worked for and loved the me and the children like we were his family which i took as serouis as he did.

But sadly 2 weeks ago he passed away and since i have been depressed and the kids have been very upset and it doesn't help that im pregnant either but his funeral was yesterday and not many people attended but afterwards was the hearing to see who inherited what, i wasn't expecting nothing because he had a daughter. I brought the children along (they wanted to come and say goodbye and i was glad of that because he would have greatly appreaciated he loved the boys) and they started to read out the will his estate and any possesions within goes to Blah Blah his daughter and it finished so so.. but before i was leaving the Lawyer called me back and asked me to come into the back room so i did.

He said that i had been left something to and i was suprised because i was so not expecting it all i wanted was him back and i knew that was'nt going to happen. Mr. Roberts has left you a large amount of money on the condition you buy a big a better house for you're family and money to support your boys and your further children through university (and i was a bit shocked because my husbands salary has enough to help us through and he knew that) and the money must only be used to do so and nothing else.

I am not going to state the amount given but it was so much that i could buy 30 houses. He then left a letter which i really want to share with you because it ment so much to me.

Dear Stacey,

Nothing would have given me greater Joy than to see you and your family grow but it seems god has other plans. You were to good to me and i don't think it is possible to explain in words how much you mean to me. You helped me up when i was down and give an old man a new lease on life and i am forever greatful. Everything said in my will is legit and i want you to get what you deserve for being the best friend ever, you mean no harm to anyone and i wish no harm ever comes to you. I hope life treats you well and please tell the boys i will miss them dearly because they gave me the family i never had and a very handsome one at that. I know money can't buy happiness as i learnt but after our chats we had and our long cups of tea i want you to live somewhere you dream and somewhere the boys can grow up. I know i will never know the little one your expecting but with you and Nick as parents im sure they will turn out to be the most sweetest talented child there is. No one else ever cared for me like you did and i am once again extremely grateful for your help and positive attitude you never gave up on my like others did and you didn't see me as a lost case you saw me as a friend like no other and treated me with utter respect and loyalty and thats why with great sadness i will regret saying goodbye to you. You were like the daughter i never had and i love everything about you i hope you make many other people's lives as good as you did mine. When im gone please don't be sad because i want you to know you made my life worth living.

Uncle Sammiee/Sampson Roberts xxxxx


Stacey.x

So my question is what do i do?
Should i tell my husband?

Stacey.x

I'd say it wa simportant to let your husband know, especially as it sounds like such a life saving thing. Good luck with your decision.
x

First off, I'm really sorry about your loss. I just lost my mom 4 weeks ago today and I know how tough it is to lose someone you love. That being said, I don't think that there's any reason that you shouldn't tell your husband unless there are underlying issues as well. Your friend left this for you because he cared for you very much and you were kind to him. There is no shame in that at all. I say find that house of your dreams like he wanted you to and once you are there, have a cup of tea everyday and think of him.

Why did it take two weeks to have his funeral?? Also how can you not tell your husband?? Honestly I dont get why or how you wouldn't...This is life changing for you and your family if you are buying a much larger house how would your husband not know where the money is from??? I dont understand that.

sometimes the best thing an older person can get is some companionship when their own family is not available

i think that you should let your husband know that he left you something in the will, it sounds like he already knows you were friends with this man so it should not be as much of a shock to him when you break the news.

sorry to hear of your loss