i was just wondering..when you(women i mean) get married to the man you love so much, you feel like he's your number one and he's your world! But when you have kids, we say our kids are our priority and family comes first. So i was thinking, do you all love your kids more than you love your husband? Or do you love your husband more than you love your kids? Does it make you feel guilty if you love your husband/kids more than the other? How does your husband think of this towards you too? Do they love you or the kids more and do they feel guilty? Or do you feel you REALLY love both EQUALLY? I'm not married and not pregnant. Maybe i have to be to know my feelings..haha..but i just wanted to know what you all feel about this..


GabbiE

it is kind of a difficult concept to grasp, and u probably wont actually understand untill ur r married and/or have kids but this is how it is for me..
the love just grows, its not a del where u oly have so much to go around, my husband is my rock, he holds me when i cry ((and thats alot lately..LOL hormones )) he is so wondrful to me that im alays thining hw lucky i am to have him, my 3 oldest kids arent even his, but he loves them like they are, they call him dad and he calls them "our kids"
but when i was a single mum, raising my 1st born and pregnant with my 2nd, i was worried about how much love i had to go around, and time and how i would handle it, but the love just grew, and again when my daughter was born..
i could never feel guilt over loving my husband OR my kids, as i love them in very different ways..

im not sure if i explained myslf properly, ((it IS 1am here )) but i hope i helped..

Seaason

That's one of the reasons why I only want about 2 kids. I want to have enough of me to go around equally to my kids, my hubby, and my dogs.

The heart is an amazing thing. It has no limits to how many people it can hold. It just continues to grow. I was worried between my first and second child if I had enough love for 2 children. I just recently had my 4th and I love them all the same. I could have 30 kids and they would all be just as important as each other. I love my DH very much, but I feel a greater responsibility for my children. They didn't ask to be here and it is our job as their parents to keep them save and put them first.

The love I have for my husband is completely different than the love I have for my children. I couldn't even begin to describe how much I love each of them, but I know they are all irreplaceable. My husband is my support, my partner for life, my Man, and the best friend I've ever had. I know this is soooo cliche, but I really feel lucky to have found him. There is no doubt in my mind that he is who I was meant to be with.

I love my little boy just as much, but not in the same way. I want to protect him, teach him, and be there for him and watch him grow. The greatest feeling I've ever had in my life was holding him for the first time. I just automatically loved him to the fullest. I am so looking forward to that feeling when I get to hold my girl.

I love each of them more than I could ever love anyone else. I don't think love is measurable. It is all natural and automatic. You will know when you have a family.