i have 2 daughters who are 15 and 13 we are wealthy so unfourtaly there spoiled and NEED ATTENTION and everything else i'm five months pregnant and they treat me like i'm scum..its really horrible what should i do? i dont know how to displine

that's horrible!!!!! unfortunatley, if you don't pull it together and show them who's in charge, they will act like that for the rest of their lives!!!!!!! can you take away things like sidekicks, wiis, cell phones, etc?? don't feel bad, if you want a change, you have to do something. you could threaten your oldest daughter by telling her she's not gonna get a car if she keeps acting like this. chores????? take a way allowance. giving your children everything they want only sets them up for disappointment b/c once they go out on their own, they will get a huge surprise when everything isn;t their way. do they have boyfriends?? threaten to keep them away from them for a while.......

make sure you explain to them why you're doing this, and try talking to them first. girls these days go through a lot in high school and maybe they just feel a lot of pressure and stress right now. also, people tend to take things out on their family members b/c you know they'll always love you no matter what. try talking and bring up punishments then show them how serious you are by putting your plans into action of a talk doesn't do enough.

good luck!!! -Katielynn

If you are wealthy, you can probably afford some counseling for both yourself and your children. They can do separate sessions with just you and then together w/you and the girls. Good luck. I agree... you better get a hold of this situation right now and not wait.
PS. My son was 14 when our baby was born and it had a terrific influence on him. He was not spoiled or disobidient in the first place. I have always demanded respect from my children, but showed my appreciation with love... NEVER 'THINGS'. At age 14 though, the language gets a little harsher and the attitude gets a little negative. Since the baby has been born, I actually hear him telling his friends to quiet down, or watch what they say and he just seems more respectful when his baby brother is around. I also think it makes him see how I was with him when he was a baby, and we reconnected a bit. The baby is also and endless supply of fun conversation between us. Let your older kids express to a counselo r what they are feeling about the new baby on the way. You don't want them taking out their feelings on the baby. Also, take them with to a few OB appointments and let them hear that heartbeat and it will give them a little ownership of the baby.

Not fixing it now could only hurt them later with the choices they will make. Don't be afraid of a little tender LOCKDOWN at that age. Sounds like they are unsure about the word respect. Don't hand everything over because you can some earning and learning never hurts anyone.

wow, I have a 14, 12, and 9 year old, and I'm 7 months pregnant. I have always tried to teach them to value a dollar and show respect. Wealth really has nothing to do with the behavior, but over indulgence does. The biggest thing to remember is that you're not raising children, you're raising adults. Childhood is only a fleeting time in our lives, and it should be magical and amazing. However, it also when the foundation is layed for who we become in society. You're older children are getting ready to head out into the world, and they are in for a rude awakening when they realize the rest of us aren't going to put up with disrespect and tantrums. Employers aren't going to care if they didn't show up for work because they had to get their nails done, they'll be fired just as quickly as anyone else. You need to sit back and think about what kind of people you want them to be ultimately, and then decide how to achieve it. They need consequences and follow through with the discipline. I personally would take everything away ( including social activities and lessons) except absolute necessities ( clothing, bedding, food)and let them know everything else is a privilege to be earned not expected. A little shock and awe might go a long way.

wealthy or not, you've taken the hard road by not disciplining from the start. its horrifying for me to see that my 3 y/o has better manners and social skills then most 10 year olds. kids NEED discipline. they will not thrive without it. please start now or you're in for a whole world of trouble.