i don't think that your daughter should start dating yet because i didn't start dating until i was 16 and i've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. he was my first boyfriend and i'm his first girlfriend. he gave me a promise ring when i was 16 when we hit 8 months and we've never cheated or anything. we are very much in love. we are the same age and most important, we are virgins. we both plan on waiting till we get married, even though we know we are going to get married to each other, we still want to wait. don't let her date yet, let her focus on her first year of high school first because boys only cause drama and trouble. my boyfriend and i have been in our fair share of fights together and we've always worked things out but boys are a MAJOR distraction.

i hope that i've helped!

Amanda Michelle

I always thought my mother was super strict because me and guys are not allowed in my bedroom together... I guess not lol.

To be honest you're daughter is going to go out with guys whether you like it or not.
Wouldn't you rather give your permission and be involved in her dating life then have her going behind your back and lying, coz she will.

When I was younger I always thought that my mother was extremely old fashioned in her ideas so I didn't talk to her at all about anything to do with my life.
She trusted me, and I was drinking and going out with guys when she thought I was having movie nights with my mates.I thought that if she found out that it would all have to stop and she'll stop trusting me.
She thinks that I've never had a boyfriend, never kissed a guy, and just recently started drinking.
I'm terrified that one day she's going to find out and get upset that I couldn't talk to her.

I'd let her date.

I agree with ItsKatie. My mum has let me date and go to parties and that stuff but with one condition; that I am completely open with her. I tell her everything, get advice from her and respect her because of it. I go to parties though I'm not allowed to drink until I turn 17 and I don't because of my respect for her and our great relationship. She picks me up, drops me off so that she knows where the party is and also makes sure that I go with good friends that will look after me. Also she keeps time limits. I am the top of my classes and get great results in school, I also get involved in many extra curricular activities. You might think that it is weird my mum has let me go to parties and such but an open, honest and compromising relationship with your child is the best (in my opinion) because there is no lying, no secrets and you will know what she is doing at all times and she will listen to your advice because she will see that you respect her and for that she will respect you

This is from my own experience and you may
ignore me if you like. Best wishes and I hope
that all goes well!!

I say yes but definetly set some rules. If I was in your shoes I would allow them to go to a movie and to parties but with parties only if a parent or both are supervising. 14 is very young but it isnt a crime if he is a sensible nice boy then yes but if he is a jerk put your foot down hun and say NO! If you decide to let your daughter date, be strict but not in a way that makes her feel that she can't be trusted.It has to go a bit of both ways.She would have to show that she can be trusted and obey your rules and you'd have to show the same,and of course the boy would have to too.

My parents' rule when I was growing up was no dating until we were 16, and only in a group until we turned 18, but we were free to hang out with friends of the opposite sex in groups or have our "boyfriend/girlfriend" over at the house to hang out. It worked fine with us 3 older kids. My dad is a minister so our rules always seemed a little more strict than those of our friends. We turned out just fine, though.
You know your daughter best and can tell if she's mature enough to handle dating. Maybe you could start out by meeting the boy she's wanting to date and allowing them to hang out at your house with supervision and as long as there's at least one other girl friend of hers over. When she can show you she's mature and responsible enough to handle it you can ease her into more freedom.

Well a good age to date is 16, but if it's just a get to gether between the two of them, like to the movies or lunch, let her call it a date. If it's dinner and he's paying, I think 14 is to younge.
~Kathleen