Okay so I am 21 years old and got pregnant at 17 had the baby at 18... My boyfriend and I had Only been dating for 4 months before I got prego and that was a messed up situation... It was very scary and I did drop out my senior year and still have yet to get my ged. I do not believe in abortion and I wanted to keep my baby and so did my boyfried, I was lucky for that. life was very hard and we have struggled alot! we had to work together to grow up and get ready to be parents in such a short amount of time but we made it! we are now married and my son is 3, and we rent a house. I always tell young people to be careful and always to use birth control if they chose to be sexauly active before marriage. I believe that teenagers getting Pregnant is a bad idea and those thinking about doing it have NO IDEA! but for those who are already pregnant I say you have 2 choices! 1. give the baby up for adoption to a family who cannot have children and are in better means to take care of a child.
2. start now and put every extra penny away and If you really want to be a mommy and or daddy you need to get a job and find a way to live on your own other wise your parents are most likly to play the mommy and daddy role for your child! give up on ideas of going to parties and drinking and using drugs andadoption, its proble being care free because EVERYTHING you do reflects on your child!!! also Only keep your friends who are good influnces on you and your new Family! take parenting classes and if the daddy is involved he needs to be willing to do the Same! Now that your a parent/parents Know that EVERYTHING you do from here on out is for that Baby NOT FOR YOU!!!............. if you are willing to do that I believe your off to a good start other wise REALLY CONSIDER y the best thing for your baby and if you really love your baby youll do what is best for him or her! no matter the pain it may cause you
Teen parents get juged poorly for a reason and mind you this is coming from a mother who started at 17! but teenagers are usally so selfish they put their wants before their babys needs its no wonder to me why we get a bad rep!!! Im not saying that all young moms are this ways Im just saying that ALOT are!

JacobsMom06 wrote:

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Teen parents get juged poorly for a reason and mind you this is coming from a mother who started at 17! but teenagers are usally so selfish they put their wants before their babys needs its no wonder to me why we get a bad rep!!! Im not saying that all young moms are this ways Im just saying that ALOT are!

EXACTLY!!!!!

Not all teen mums are bad parents or irresponsible, the point Dezzy_mae that we are all trying to make is that to encourage other teens to become parents is pathetic and it's teens like you and many many others that give the ones that manage it a bad rep, they are the ones I feel for not you....

Being a teen mum isn't the issue it is being ready and there is no teen on this earth who can say they were ready to be a mum cos there are alot of adults who feel the same way.... NO ONE is truely prepared to be a parent ever cos all children are different and all come with a whole different set of issues to deal with and doing it when you are still a kid yourself is horrible and I can say that from experience...

You yourself have stated that you are having problems with your daughter, you are finding it hard with the lack of sleep now and the new bub isn't even here yet, you are complaining that your BF isn't around much at all cos of work commitments yet you tell other teens its great to be a mum????? It's the best thing in the world????

Yes being a mum is the best feeling once you become one, but being a regular teen is even better, you don't have responsiblities like a mother and once you become a mum that early you lose all that and can never get it back...

And BTW, just incase you haven't noticed yet, you haven't had one person reply in your favour yet so maybe next time you create a post as I said early think long and hard about what you wish to say cos you may not like the replies you get and therefore will have no excuse to go off at people for giving their opinions regardless of how validated their opinions are.... If "YOU" don't like what you are reading then you can be the one to leave the discussion you created cos I am pretty sure this post is going to get much longer with replies from people that are obviously not going to be to your liking so get used to it....

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I don't think mane of you understand teenage mums.

Um, dude, pretty much everyone who's posted on here IS a teen mom. You don't get any better understanding than that, as you should know, being one yourself.

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And people AGAINST teen pregnancy should be ashamed.

Newsflash, most teen parents are against teen pregnancy(their own situation). Almost all would most wait longer if they had the chance to go back, no matter how in love they are with their kids. They still wish that they'd had the baby later, when they were older and more prepared.

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if you really don't have anything nice to say about teenage mothers please just leave the discussion.

We do have plenty of nice things to say about SELECT teen mothers, for example many women on this site. You can't say, 'All teen mothers are wonderful parents and do everything they can for their children' because this simply is not true. Many teen mother's are wonderful parents, and do do everything they can for their childen (for example, all the teen moms on here. ) But there are too many who don't and aren't for there to be anything outstandingly positive about the whole thing besides the child in most cases, and in some, not even that.

meh. i don't like the discussions about teen moms anymore. if someone says something positive someone else gets mad, and starts a fight. and when it starts out negative in the first place, its just the biggest argument in the world!! arg.

kenley really? There is NOTHING positive about becoming a mom as a teen. We were just saying that it happens sometimes and if you have sex try not to get pregnant and if you get pregnant sit and think about what YOU not your parents have to offer that baby. If the only answer that comes to mind is love then you might want to do the right thing and give the baby up for adoption. If you keep the baby you will most likely always struggle with money and take a hell of a lot longer to get stable than if you had waited. I still say that teens should not be having sex cuz it is a responsibility that is a bit bigger of a deal than feeding the dog cuz a puppy is a whole hell of a lot easier to get rid of than a child. And Kenley the reason that you have been catching crap left and right about the baby by everyone is cuz they know that it's hard and it really doesn't seem to have gotten through your head that it might have been a bad idea to even go down the path that led you here. You can love your daughter but just consider all the things that would be so much easier if you had put it off a few years. I'm not bashing you I just want you to think some more and put the heart away it can't help you out in the world only your head can.

wow. not bashing...really mamatinkerbell?


i'm fed up with this site.
all i ever get it peoples crap, no matter what.

i'll go elsewhere for help on names for my daughter.
i'm done with this site.


good luck to everyone's who's pregnant. best of luck.

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