Teenmommy09 wrote:

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ok wow today was my first day visiting this site and let me just say im pretty pissed off with these pepole getting on here saying bad things about teenage parents!My name is kasey and i am 19 i found out about a month and a half ago that me and my fiance of 3years are 4months pregant and im so sick of pepole downing teenagers for getting pregant yes my pregancy was not planned but i am making the best of it i am attending college to become a surgical tech.my boyfriend works full time at a car dearlership as a head detalier and a cars sellsmen.i am so sick of these pepole talking about teenagers being on welfare and not taking care of there babies being a teen mom has nothing to do with it what about these 35 year old ladies that keep poping out babies so they can have the government pay for there familes and them getting drunk all the time and leaving there babies with pepole they barely even know so first off it really truly has nothing to do with being a teenager and whats funny is alot of times teenagers are better parents then them anyways.so stop saying things about teenage parents you cant call yourself a good parent just because your older. age is only a number!

For one thing, yes technically you are a teenager, but you are also considered an adult, you have finished high school at least, you have been with your boyfriend for more then a few months, and you both seem to be rather financially stable. The teen mums that everyone has issues with are the ones who are not yet considered adults (14,15,16, or 17) and rely on their parents to take care of their child.

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And as previously mentioned in the before post, it is the ENCOURAGEMENT of teen pregnancy that we are completely disagreeing with. I ask you this, being in your situation right now. Would you honestly tell a 15 or 16 year old girl that, because she feels like she is ready, to go out and have a kid?

It's perfectly understandable for the pregnant teens out there to be upset.

We are telling them that their situation is a horrible thing that should never happen, that the majority of teen mothers are bad. Though this is true, 'majority' has a habit of being construed as 'all'.

Kenley, Antoinette, Teenmommy09, and all the other pregnant teens on this site have basically proven that they can take on the challenge and will be good mothers. We really love all you guys, and would never purposefully hurt you, or make you angry. I'm sorry that you feel like we're attacking you because of something you didn't plan, or want.

We are mad at the ones who go out, like Bexie said, and get themselves knocked up knowing they won't be the ones really caring for the child. The ones who think having a baby is all fun and games, dress up dolls. The ones who get pregnant on purpose when they are your age and younger.

I'm sorry we are upsetting you.

Well said Chicky! 3 of my sisters are had their first children in their teens. I saw the hell that it was right along with the joys. My niece, Hailey, is 16 and no sign of continuing the cycle.

Im 19, 20 at the end of this month n having a bub.

My Mother had me b4 her 15th birthday. And since me shes had 6 more. Shes only 35 this year. She didnt have the normal Teenage life, and shes trying to relive it now.
I find it a lil embarrassing sometimes, lol the way she dresses and stuff, N I dnt have the mother daughter relationship I feel like a sister to her. And its not a great feeling to Not REALLLLy have a mother figure. My mums been through Drugs, sexual abuse, EVERYTHING and shes still Selfish n thinks bout herself. My Sister n I were sexually abused by the people she hung around. My two younger brothers father sexually abused my sister n when I found out I took her str8 to the police. Hes been in jail only 8yrs. Getting out soon N my mum still to this day doesnt believe my sister n i. N Is still planning to get back with him.

My point is; its not a gr8 idea to have children so young, because You can't have both a party life n a Family life, because these are some of the things that COULD happen to your children. Not all young parents turn out like this but it does happen. And its not a gr8 feeling for kids like me n my bros n sisters to be in n out of foster homes, abused not knowing if ur gonna have a good meal today, or if mums gonna stay awake long enough to help with homework.

I must admit tho, She is doing a rehab course and trying hard to be better but that still doesnt make up for the other 18yrs of my life or my familys. And shes still Getting back with a convicted pedo. My child wont be visiting her.

Im glad i broke tht cycle n im nothing like my mother.

I think a teen (12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17) that go out and try to fall pregnant on PURPOSE just because they think they are ready when they are only babies them selves is not an idel situation and at that age should realisticly look at there options and do not only whats best for them and what they want but think about the baby and at how being that old you are going to affect your child.

It is not that I have something against those teen mums out there coz I dont but if you ask them most of them would say even though they love their children so much if they had the oppertunity to wait they would have.

BE 100% ready both you and your partner, be able to provide both stability and finacially.

I am 21 and currently TTC my first... I have been with my husband 4 years and we have been married 6 months and are both very happy and stable with each other we are in a very good situation finacially and that is why we have waited till this point to start trying. We both have new relaible cars we are buying a house, so please all you teen mums out there think of the concequinces befor you have un-protected SEX.