MamaTinkerBell wrote:

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I do believe that if you are a teen thinking about trying to be a parent you should be put in a course where you live like you would if you had the baby and your parents kicked you out.

I give props to anyone who raises a child as a teen but that doesn't mean I condone it. Parents these days are much more lenient. I'm not saying it's their fault though! These days parents are supporting teenage parents. When a while ago they would have been disowned by their families. There are no dire consequences anymore and that, in my opinion, is why teenagers don't care as much. Fair enough, they made a mistake and got a baby out of it, but mum and dad will be there to fix it. They take the love and support of parents for granted. If they had to leave home and get a job whilst looking for somewhere to live and raising a baby I think they'd be more careful.

DezzyMae123 wrote:

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I just thinkthat the whenever you feel ready to have a baby it's up to you. But most teenmummy turn out alright and i give out alot of repsect to the rest of the teen mums out there. it's not easy but things gets easier.

I became a mom at the age of 24, not so young,
just finished my college education right in time before I gave birth(from a top public university too), not so bad,
my boyfriend is still by my side and gave me whatever he can, not alone.

But god I still wish I waited and prepared better!! I was on Medi-Cal for about a year, didn't get food stamps or cash aid because I was lucky to have my parents to feed and house me. Now, I still have to rely on my parents on taking care of my son, when I go to another city to work as an intern and come back during weekends. I barely have enough earning for my rent, day care and student loan payment. Now my son is growing fast and ready to walk soon, and I still can't afford a bigger place, so I have to take him out to the mall or park to learn his walking.

Now you tell me how "things get easier"? have a baby whenever you "feel" ready? The world doesn't evolve the way you "feel" like. I am sure there are a lot of young moms will too tell your their struggling stories. Yes, a baby is always the greatest joy of life. But to be responsible for this little tiny human, you need a solid foundation of every aspects, unless your or your partner's parents are wealthy and willing to finance you and the kid.

P.S. I have great respect for teen moms who work hard for herself and her kids. And there are non-teen moms who act very immature and irresponsible too, such as that Octomom. But encouraging teen pregnancy is just ridiculous.

Antoinette hunny I hope I didn't offend you in what I said as I know the situation with you and Akono and because of your age I highly commend you both for how you have dealt with the situation at hand... It is not an easy task becoming a mum but for you it will be alot tougher as it is twins and the fact that you both have things sorted the way you both do is uber fantastic and I wish all teen mums and dads could do what you both are doing....

All I was trying to point out is that majority of teen mums especially would rather wait til they are older and more set up financially and experience wise as you stated before becoming a mum....
Another reason I commend you is because you did go out of your way to prevent this from happening but alas it was to no avail but you are also in a small minority of teens who DO have their heads screwed on right and are planning ahead to be one of the ones who betters themselves for the sake of the children...

And when it comes to your parents giving you the opportunity to buy your own home etc.... IMO it doesn't matter how that opportunity came about the fact is you and Akono are working towards a real future for your children and are planning on doing it yourselves the way I did and many others did on your own....

The only time I myself was on welfare was between jobs when I was single, I didn't have help from anyone but the friends that remained friends over the years...

So if I upset you in any way sweetness I truely apologise for that as It was completely unintentional...

you didn't offend me.. sorry i didn't even think my post worked, my computer was not totally working properly lol.. i was just adding m story so that there was a bit of a different perspective out there for people to read so that people could see that just because you have a baby when your young doesn't mean you can't work towards what you want and make something of your life..

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I'm glad cos I would hate to upset you sweetnes, as I said you are one of the rare ones who actually has a plan to go through with whereas many others think it is just easy but babies and toddlers are a breaze compared to them getting older and just wait til they hit their teens themselves thats when the REAL fun starts LOL...

I just can't believe that a teen mum would be telling teens that if they think they are ready to have a baby then go ahead its great.... That seriously blows me away....

This chick supposedly has a two year old, has another post specifying how hard it is right now to get her said 2 year old to sleep preoperly and shes pregnant again but it gets easier?????

She has no clue as to what lies ahead for her and she is obviously struggling to a degree and yet she wants to tell people how great it is to be a teen mum....

I know women in their 20's and 30's who wished they had planned better before having children but this tard thinks she has it all worked out and recommends it to all teens????
Bloody moron in my opinion

oh yeah, Angel, i totally agree with you.. i would never recommend this to anyone, the situation i am in now i know that no matter how prepared i am if i has my babies in even 5 years instead of 5 months they would have a better life because i would be more financially stable then and no matter how mature or maternal you are as a teen you are not financially capable to raise a child without help so i say if you can help it don't have a baby till you are at least 25 and have everything organized before your even start trying, like a house and a full time job that will offer maternity leave.. i am just lucky because both of those things kind of just happened.. it is stupid and she doesn't know much if she would tell someone to do this to themselves because it really isn't an ideal circumstance to bring a child into the world..

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