My son, Noah, is almost 13 weeks old. Obviously I'm not planning on having another baby just yet, but eventually, I want atleast 3 children. The problem is, Noah's daddy doesn't want anymore... I'm hoping he will change his mind, because I've always wanted atleast 3. Before I was pregnant with Noah, he always siad to me we shoulk have 3, we had names picked out too. Now he has just changed his mind because he realises how much work babies can be.

Has anyone else been in this situation, or similar? I definately don't want to get pregnant with him not wanting it to happen, but I really want more children.

What should I do?

Shann

Well, for now I wouldn't worry about it with such a young one. I know that's not what you want to hear. Are you asking like if you should "leave him", "manipulate him", just accept you might only have one child, or what? You all probably just need time. In a yr or two, he may be saying to you, "Come on, honey, let's have another baby!" Does he have siblings? If so, he will probably want at least one more. But in the meantime, don't give yourself extra mental unnecessary stress over something that is all just "maybe" and not extremely important right now. I hope that helps. Be good, now!

Thank you

I was more wondering whether it may cause issues down the track?

And if i should be the one to compromise with just one child?

If you stay with this man, and you manipulate him or try to get pregnant without him knowing, etc, I think that would be wrong. Sure, if he continues to not want another child because he's so selfish and they're so much work, yeah, that would be a bummer for you, but it would still be wrong to bring his child into the world in a manipulative way---how happy would you really be with that scenario without his support, anyway? So, yes, in that case you would pretty much have to compromise. Are these the issues you're talking about?

As i stated in the original post, no, i definately would not have a baby without his full consent! I'm just not that kind of a person
I definately do not want to leave him either.

I just want us to have a big family hopefully in some time we will want for the same thing

Since Noah is only 13 weeks and requires almost constant care then I'm sure that's probably why he had a change of heart. He didn't realize before how much work it was to care for a baby, and now he's questioning whether he wants to start all over again. But I'd be willing to bet that in a few years he'll more than likely change his mind. I know a lot of people who wanted a big family until they had their first child then they changed their mind. But then a few years down the road, they decided they really did want a bigger family after all and that it was worth all the hard work. Think about how many times you've said "I'm never doing that again!" Only to find yourself doing that exact thing later on.

Right now I wouldn't trouble myself with it. You both still have plenty of time to make a decision about more children.

Congratulations on your new little one and best of luck to you