I'm really really lost rite now. six months ago i got raped by one of my friends and i got pregnent. i didnt find out until my third month but i'm really lost and confused cuz i dont know why this happened to me. i'm a christian and i go to church and i dont know what to do or how ppl will react please help! the boy got off cuz there wasnt enough evidence. i want to keep the baby but i'm worried people will judge me badly.

also, i know pre-marital sex is a sin, but is it still a sin if it was rape?

Hi, Kelsie

First of all, I would like to say that I am very sorry that you were raped. That is a horrible thing that no one should ever have to go through. I can only imagine how difficult it must be, knowing that is what caused you to get pregnant.
I am a christian as well, so I understand the struggle of right and wrong that you are feeling.
I'm 23, and I am in my second pregnancy. My first pregnancy, I was pregnant with twins and I had an abortion. I felt very lost and didn't know what to do. Let me tell you, I have never regretted anything so much in my entire life. you may think that you don't have a bond with the baby inside of you, but you do. And when it's gone, you feel like your heart has been ripped out. I have never been so broken in my life, and I am still feeling the effects of that today. It is something that you have to live with for the rest of your life. The one thing that you can't say "I'm sorry" for, and make it better.
What I had to realize, is that babies are a gift from God! He allowed you to get pregnant. It definately isnt the best circumstance, but God is the giver of life. That baby inside you is a blessing! God also promises that he won't give us more than what we can handle. I don't know your whole situation here, and being 14 is so young. But I strongly suggest that you talk to your parents about this (if you feel you can), or talk to a pastor etc. No one is going to condemn you, or make you feel bad for what you have been through. You are not some horrible sinner, or horrible person, because you are pregnant as a result of rape. I promise you! If anything, people are going to support you and be there for you.
I warn you though, be careful on who you listen to... because the devil wants to take away that baby's life... and if you listen to his lies, whether in your head, or through people that don't know God, it can be very easy to be persuaded into thinking that you should end the baby's life.
God promises that he turns our mourning and sadness into joy. Don't look at it as, this baby is some horrible result of what happened... thank Jesus for sending you this life growing inside of you and he will give you the tools you need to get through this. and you know what? it WILL get better! I promise!

I really, strongly suggest that you find someone trustworthy, like a pastor, or a christian adult to talk to about this. It is only going to get worse if you keep it to yourself, and it will really help to have someone to pray with you etc and be there for you through all of this.

I am definately going to be praying for you

First of all i want to say that i apologize that u were raped sweetie...But don't worry about anyone else and what they think...No one can tell u what's right for u. That baby u are carrying isn't to blame..And don't blame urself either. Everything happens for a reason(not saying u we'er raped for a reason just that everything in our life has a reason and a design) and God has a plan for u and this child. So be happy u have a blessing inside u baby girl. Know that God is watching ur every step and know he has u and always will.

First thing is to take a breath and calm down. One of the easier parts is over, actually discussing the rape with your parents. When I was 14, I was held as a guys sex-slave and could not get away for a year and a half. (HE threatened to hurt my family) then, when I was 16, I was stabbed 5 times by my best friend and raped. The hardest part is telling the parents. Since you were raped and it sounds like your parents were aware of it, you can sit down with them and tell them the news yourself, or you can get a third party like a councellor which your school probably has if you aren't seeing a councellor about the rape. I am also a Christian and pre-marital sex may be a sin, but you can always repent your sins and ask God for forgiveness, but in the case of rape, you had absolutely no fault in it whether you think you could have prevented it or not. YOu can always pray for God to lead you in the right direction, but you did not sin. Don't worry about what people will think about you. That should be the last thing on your mind and do what is right for your child. At the age of 14, you have to ask yourself if you are capable of taking care of a child while going to school, if you are financially stable, and if you want to raise it with no father. It might be a very hard decision, but you may want to also consider an adoption. They have open adoptions where you can always keep in touch with your child if that is what scares you about it. But I was adopted, it took my mom 7 surgeries and 10 years to try to have a child untill she adopted me. You could change (and also make) somebodies life full.

I will be praying for you. If you want to talk, my e-mail is This e-mail address is being protected from spam bots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it .

Hi Kelse. U are probally a great person and a chrisitian as well, but that person that did that 2 u dont have a brain. At your age u r probally thinking how r u going 2n take care of a baby, but that baby is going 2 come out to be a very stronge person and become somt special 2 u and the world. There are people to talk 2 and for u to put ur life on the enternet to tell people bout ur story means u have a lot of courage this baby will come out to be a wounderful person keep ur head up. It is sad to hear it from somebody who got rape. My cousin raped my other cousins girlfriend in my aunts house she is getting over the fact that she got raped but it is still a shocking thing to hear. Home-gurl dont be sad cause god has a way to make everything better so take this advice dont blame ur self just pray and i am praying and hoping it wont happen to any one else. GOD BLESS YOU

You cannot help what happened to you; don't worry about what others think. I am so sorry this happened to you, but like others said, you are carrying a precious baby and don't listen if anyone tells you to abort it. Pre-marital sex is wrong; but in your case, you did no wrong because it was against your will, but the guy who did this to you did the wrong and I am so sorry that he has not had to pay for what he's done. Please talk to your parents, or find a crisis pregnancy center near you. They will help support you throughout the rest of your pregnancy and help you when the baby comes. Remember that God does not give us more than we can handle.