Ask your grandparents about Dr. Spock. Dr. Spock was an "expert" in the 1960's that advised parents not to spank. Note: he did not have children of his own. Lots of people listened to him and took his advice. Generations down the road, he came back to apoligize for what he had created. Because since parents started listening to him, there was a downfall on discipline, respect, and the way children behaved. Because of the out of control children (as a result of no spankings), parents became frustrated, and in their frustration, abuse began. And so the cycle continued, and that is why we are where we are today and the reason this is being discussed. Spanking is not wrong when done correctly. It was never a problem when our grandparents were growing up.

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Ask your grandparents about Dr. Spock. Dr. Spock was an "expert" in the 1960's that advised parents not to spank. Note: he did not have children of his own. Lots of people listened to him and took his advice. Generations down the road, he came back to apoligize for what he had created. Because since parents started listening to him, there was a downfall on discipline, respect, and the way children behaved. Because of the out of control children (as a result of no spankings), parents became frustrated, and in their frustration, abuse began. And so the cycle continued, and that is why we are where we are today and the reason this is being discussed. Spanking is not wrong when done correctly. It was never a problem when our grandparents were growing up.

Yes, and also during our grandparents time it was considered perfectly appropriate to give the little women a smack every once in a while to keep her in line. Should we go back to that too?

Spanking, hitting, beating and what ever else you want to call it in the name of discipline is wrong. Discipline means "to teach" and punishment is a very small part of discipline.

Spanking teaches children to use acts of aggression and violence to solve their problems. Research shows that children who have been spanked are more prone to low self-esteem, depression and accept lower paying jobs as adults (Family Research Laboratory). Statistically, whether or not parents spank is also based on their education level (the more schooling they've had, the less likely they are to spank).

A child who is hit (spanked) always remember the spanking but not the behavior that caused it. Isn't the behavior what we want them to remember? How else are they going to learn?

Please educate yourself on the alternatives and discipline (teach) your children with out hitting them.

Spanking is the very last resort. I'd use it only in case my child could hurt herself or others. Last instance. I was raised like that. When we kids did something like that (throwing the stones on the other children or climbing a bedrock behind our house - similar kind of situations) we were spanked. I can say we're well behaved and so are all the people I know who were brought up in that way. There are some rules which are ultimate. Getting a little spank on your backside is a good memento.

well i dont agree with spanking but if your into it i think a reason why is that your child is hurting themself or others!

We had to take our son to his pediatrician this morning, and while there, my husband asked her about discipline. She said it this way: all the "experts" say "no, no, no" but my Bible says "yes, yes, yes". And we feel the same way, but like she said, you can use other forms of discipline also, in addition to spanking. Spanking is NOT beating a child, it is getting the child's attention and letting them know you are in authority. As Nonny said, a certain amount of fear is not a bad thing; lots of people have not been taught that way and that is why they have no respect for authority. I was spanked as a child and I love my parents; we have a close family. Same with my husband and the way he grew up, and I know MANY other people the same way.
And CariannDS, I and my husband both have BS degrees, and many other people we know that have college degrees and higher believe in spanking; so I don't necessarily agree with your statement about levels of education and spanking.

I myself, am going to stick with God's Word on the subject; I believe He has the best advice to offer.