Hi, I'm Nico and I'm due with my first baby next week. I'm terrified I won't be a good mom!! I was never very maternal and I'm worried I won't love her at first sight or that she won't like me! I've set up the nursery and gotten a pump and babyproofed the house but I still think I won't be a good mom.
It's hard because my mom raised me and two sisters on her own and she's my role model as a mom.
Is this silly? I just feel so paranoid that I won't be a good mom to my baby, who I'm namining Ariella Rose. My husband is here to help of course but he works so I'll be taking care of the baby in the day. I'm also worried people will look down on my for leaving my job to take care of her!
Any expierenced mom's out there wanna give some advice????

Theres no need to be scared sweetie!

I was nervous too when i was pregnant with my daughter- my first baby- your nervous & scared because its your first baby and you dont know what to expect ect. Im sure all your worries will go once you see your baby and hold her for the first time- i know mine did & i loved her at first sight!
Try and not think about all the bad things and think only about the good. Remember the stress aint good for you or your baby. No one will think bad of you for leaving your job to take care of your daughter, i took 6mths off but looking back wish i had taken at least a year. You never know in a year or two when your daughter is a little older you may feel ready to go back to work- which will give yourself a little break as it is hard work been with your child 24/7.
You will be fine trust me, you have good support around you to help with your daughter.

First of all I think that everyone mother has been in this situation where they feel that they are not going to be a good mother. It is new territory. You need to have some confidence in yourself that you can do it and you will do just fine. Every mother has bumps along the way of motherhood. We learn from our mistakes and correct them and move on.

I am sure that your mom, sisters and your husband are there to support you in anyway that they can.
If people are going to look down on you for leaving your job and take care of your baby then all of those people would have to look down on every pregnant mother for leaving there job. I don't think that you have anything to worry about there.

You have picked out a beautiful name for you daughter.

Relax...Take one day at a time and go from there.

Good luck and enjoy you new baby daughter

Hope this helps.

First of all, talk to your doctor about what you are feeling, there could be some medical reasons you are feeling this way. Second, do you have anyone else that can help you with the baby just at first until you get your bearings.

I had my first child at 32, and the reason I waited so long was because I was terrifed I wasn't going to be a good mother. My mom was a single mom too and she did the best she could but it was ruff. I think your feelings are valid and the best thing you can do is talk about them, that is what helped me. I even went to a phsycologist for a while, it helped me a lot. I love my baby girl, the biggest thing for me when I was preganant was I couldn't wait to she what she looked like. Of cource back then I didn't know she was a she. But I tried to focus on that one thing, seeing what she looked like instead of worring about everything else. It is easier to think about something else than it is to try and not think about something, if that makes sence.

Talk to your doctor, talk to your friends and family, talk to a professional if you have to, and try and focos on one thing your looking forward to when the baby comes.

Good luck and I hope this helped.

Hi im Misty! When I found out I was pregnant with my first child I was scared. I didn't know what being a parent was all about. I alwas thought to myself what I would do if they fell down or how would i react to there problems. I just thought I wasn't going to be a good parent. My mom raised me and my 3 other siblings by herself so I thought if she could do I can do it. Of course I got my boyfriend to help out but he works during the day and I have her almost all the time. When I became a parent things changed. Its like everything I worried about didn't exist. I was happy and excited to be a mother and i wasnt scared. When i looked at my daughter for the first time i knew that i would do anything in my power to be a great mom and to this day i think i have done a great job raising her. I love her more than anything in this world. She is my gift from above and i wouldnt change a thing about becoming a parent.

The simple fact that you are worried shows that you're ready to be a mom. Believe it or not you're already putting your baby first. Relax a little. Being a first time mom is scary, but within a month or two you'll have a routine and you'll feel like an old pro. The first few weeks are the most difficult and a support group will help. Your mom, sisters, friends, a neighbor, or a new mommy group will help relieve the stress. I bonded immediately with my children, but not all women do and that's okay too. You will fall madly head over heels in love eventually, sometimes it just takes awhile to absorb it all. Expect to be exhausted right after labor and delivery. Actually expect to be exhausted for awhile, those first weeks become a blur, and you will wonder what happened to your life when you walk out the door with one shaved leg, unbrushed teeth, and sleep gunk in your eyes. That's usually about the time you see your baby smile for the first time and everything is suddenly all better, and from then on your life will revolve around toothless grins Take a deep breath, you're in for the ride of your life. Don't worry about what might be and just enjoy it