im 15 and i want to have a baby when im 17. how do i tell my mom about how i want to have a baby. should i just say its my life? or should i just say im pregnant and see what her reaction??? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

you might think that you are ready for a baby now but have you thought about all of the emotional, physical, and most importantly financial situations that you will have to deal with? i'm 21 years old have a fiance whom i've been with for 5 years and both have pretty decent jobs. we really want kids but we have so many bills piling up so i would just rethink all of those things before you go on with your "PLAN". your only 15 why be in such a hurry just enjoy life!! i know that i'm not very old but i do miss being 15 even 17 years old!!

i feel as if im ready and im willing to giveup everything

please don't feel like I'm belittling you.

PLEASE DO YOURSELF A FAVOR STAY TEEN!
yeah okay I know I really messed myself up because even though I'm out of highschool I really want to have fun and I can't because I have a baby on the way!

I remember being pregnant and still being in school.. and that was college. It was not as easy as you have fantasized, and I can not imagine what it would have been like to be a teenager in that situation. There is nothing wrong with being a teenager.. believe you me those are the best years of your life. Babies are not babydolls, they have needs that will cost money, time, attention and maturity. you owe your self and any child you are thinking about bringing into this world a real chance in life, by not only getting an education but by growing up and allowing your self to grow and mature from your experiences.

Lets pretend ur really willing to sacrifice ur freedom, ur education, ur friends, possibly ur family if they rnt supportive, ur chance at independence, ur youth, ur body, ur time, ur finiancial well being and so much more just because u want a baby and u want it pretty much now. That just goes to prove your not ready for a child. as a parent your first and only responisblity is to provide the best life possible to your child. How can you do that without an education? without money? without a stable loving home enviroment with 2 committed responisble parents? without a parent who knows how to take care of things on their own? without a parent whos learned just who they are and what they are made of? I cant totally fault young people who accidentally get pregnant when their choice of birth control fails. but to purposely be so irresponsibale as to intentially get pregnant at such a young age? no thats just insane. You couldnt provide the best life possible to that child. Kids cost money, getting money means having a good job, which oftne means a post high school education of some sort, which means finishing high school. and a stable loving 2 parent home is best. Most guys cant handle kids at that age and they run. Waiting to find true love is best for your childs emotional well being. As a parent you should want to be a great role model for your children and how can you be when ur an unemployed, uneducated person who didnt care enough about their future to wait until you were financially and emotionally ready along with a good father. Your being totally selfish here and not even stopping to consider the kind of life you would be providing your innocent child as a single, unwed, uneducated unemployed, teenage mother. That selfishness your showing right says to most people you are far from ready to be a parent. Dont through not only your own life away but your childs as well. Wait until your a mature adult with all your ducks in a row. Then and only then should you consider intentionally trying to get pregnant.

I apologize to any teen mothers who got pregnant even though they were being responisble and using birth contol methods, who i may have offended. i think your in a totally seperate boat. You tried to do the right thing and you cant be blamed for doing what you felt was right for you and your child once you found out you were prengnat. i respect you girls. I cant respect those who intentionally do it though or just dont take precautions.