I Had My 1st Baby At 15 And It Was Hard. But I Wouldnt Give My Girls Up For The World. If HAving A Baby At 17 Is What You Want To Do Just Make Sure You Have Some Money To Support The Baby And You AHve Finished Most Of Your School Work And Most Of All Your Family

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And yes a baby to young can ruin your life my sister got pregnant at 15 and she died giving birth

Sweetheart, I am pregnant with my 2nd child. Let me give you honest advice from the heart. I had been married for 1 1/2 years when I got pregnant with my first child & now I've been married for 4. Being a mom is the most rewarding thing in the world, but it is also the most difficult. You give up alot. And the first few months (or years), there is no solid nights sleep or naps (I know this sounds like no big deal, but trust me, it is). Little things like going to the grocery store become alot more complicated when you have a child. You can't just go out with friends when you want to, or go anywhere else when you decide to for that matter: your life will revolve around their nap & eating schedules. Finances are something you really need to think about also. My husband has a good job, & we still have to be careful b/c diapers (& everything else) are so expensive. Pregnancy is not easy either. Most women are very sick during it & many are in alot of pain during pregnancy also. Though I feel so blessed & grateful to be pregnant, I will be honest, I am so tired all the time & I can't sleep at night b/c I have so much pain in my legs, back & abdomen (I also hurt during the day as well). Every woman's pregnancies are different, but you just can't assume that it is going to be a breeze b/c it probably will not. Studies show that girls who have children at young ages are at higher risks for dangerous pregnancy issues as well. I have a very good friend who got pregnant at 18 (she is not married & he left her after he found out she was pregant so she is raising the baby on her own). She is an amazing mother & she wouldn't trade her son for anything, but she has called me many times in tears b/c she is struggling to make it. She wishes she had waited until she was married & they were ready. It is so hard to finish school (which you have to do to have a good job) when you are a mother...I know b/c I'm finding it hard to do so now that I've decided to go back to school. I am blessed b/c my husband works so that I can stay at home with my son...I can't imagine what I would do if I did not have that option. I was 21 when I had my son. I'm asuming you are not married. Parenting is something you have to work extremely hard at even when you have the support of a great spouse (& relationships really get strained when you become parents if you are not very careful) Sweetie, listen to me: enjoy being a teen, don't rush into motherhood. You may not regret your child (b/c children are precious), but you probably will regret not waiting. You are responsable for that child's life & who they become. You also want to set a good example for them (would you want your 17 year old purposely becoming pregnant?). I don't know if you feel the need to be loved by a baby & that's why you want one, or if you really think that you are ready. I am not you, so I can't act like I know what you think or feel, or how mature you are. What I do know is that motherhood is not something to be taken lightly. It's the most important responsibility (as well as being a wife) that you will ever take on...if you wan to be a GOOD mother. Think about what you are doing. I pray that you make the right decision.

p.s--I definately think you should talk honestly about this with your parents (or mother) b/c this is a very serious issue that they (she)needs to be aware of.

CourtneyMadison- I'm very sorry your sister died at such a young age. Did your sister's child survive? I understand your opinion now. I still do not agree but I'm assuming under the circumstance that would of happened in my family i would feel the same. But a child is gift not something to ruin your life. The child did not asked to be born but if your well educated and prepared regardless of age I feel someone could be a good parent. (I'm not saying 12). I agree that's way too young. I also think Daddysgirl27 meant that you don't seem to be very understanding. So if i was your child i probably wouldn't come to you for advice especially if you view a child as something to ruin someone's life.

Sorry, I meant *responsible & *want

p.s--I am not saying motherhood is not wonderful. I adore being a mom. I'm saying that it is something that should come about when you are married & both you and your spouse are ready (emotionally, financially & all of the above). You have to consider the little one that you will be bringing into this world & not just what you want at this moment. Give yourself time to think about it (in the meantime I would advise not having sex, so that you do not end up in a situation that you regret). I don't know your religious beliefs, but I would also suggest that you pray about the decision you are thinking of making. Cherish yourself enough to do this, and love your future child enough to make the correst choice as well. I don't know you, but I care. God bless.