My docter says I may never be able to have a baby. But I REALLY want a child. So I started looking for children to adopt.....and then I saw her. The most beautiful and cute little girl I had ever seen in my entire life. Then I started to get worried. When the little girl was older she was going to notice that her parents do not have the same skin colour as her and then be upset about being adopted. If I told her that she was adopted she may try and attempt to find her real parents. Should I adopt her or not? And If I should what is the best way to let her know that she is adopted? Im so confused! Help me!

Okay, well I think that adopting her would be up to you. Just remember: She is going to be a lot of work regardless of her personality (which could change) and whether or not you want a child. But you probably know that so my answer is that anyone here can make fairly good points but the answer is up to you. As for mentioning it to her if you DO adopt her, I would hold off unless she asked. If she does ask, you could ask her back, like 'What do you think is the answer?' and she would say why she thinks or if she says I don't know you could say 'Hm, well that makes two of us, but we love each other and that's all that matters, right?'. It's probably a good idea to ask what she thinks, so you know what's going through her mind and determine whether it's something she thinks about often or not. When she's older, you might want to tell her the truth if she asks, but constantly remind her that you love her. This advice is probably not going to be the best advice you'll get, but I hope it helps one way or another. Good luck.

I think honesty is the best policy. If she grows up always knowing she was chosen specially and adopted then it won't be an issue, it will just be the way it is. Tell her she grew in your heart, not in your tummy. Genetics do not make a family, love does and if you want to be her mother then go for it. Neither of you will regret it. If she wants to find her birth parents one day then support her in every way you can, secure in the knowledge that you are her mother and she will always be yours.

I was going to say exactly what M.C.K already said but more like this... You should tell her as soon as shes able to talk and tell God put her in someones elses tummy to help her grow until she was able to come to you so she grew in someone elses tummy but she came from your heart!

'Tell her she grew in your heart, not in your tummy'... best advice ive ever heard. my 2 older brothers are adopted, and thats the best way i ve heard it explained. we were told that they had 2 mommies, one that carried them in her tummy, and asked our mommy to carry them in their heart, and to take care of them when their other mommy couldnt anymore.