Hello im here to ask.. Im a dad heres my problem....
Today i said a final goodbye to my girls as they drove of with Asha(their mum and my ex)
We had a fight and now i will probaley never see them again
Im not allowed to see them now. My 2 girls (CLaire ,11, and Lucy ,9,).
Before they left i promised to pay All Claires Drama fess from now on and ALL Lucys gymnastics fees (also from now on)
Should i be doing this?
And Danielle my secondary school girlfriend reappeared and we did sertain things (this is why me and Asha spilt up)
Before i continue im not a 2 timer. A few days ago Asha went of with a guy one night and her mate told me secretly and i didnt dunp her because i loved her and you know to sort of give her a second chance. But then came along Danielle and then i just had to get pay back (and becuase i still loved Danielle from the past).
Well now Danielles pregnant we can not tell yet if its mine of not because she says its too early.
Shall i go with her even if the babys not mine?
Confusse ex-dad.

I find your situation to be a little bit like a game...I'm not sure what you want us to say to that, we can't make the decision for you. You have to figure it out for yourself, sorry, but we would only be able to help with pregnancy and naming situations, as the title of the site describes.

Good luck with your situation though and all the best.

daisies110

well said Daisies. I concur!

- Genevra

Dear SadDad,

First of all these are your baby girls and nothing should get in the way of that. You legally have rights to visit them and of course you should be paying their fees for their sports and hobbies. Just because Asha may have screwed you over and you the same to her doesnt mean u stop caring about your girls.

Next Danielle wouldnt know if she was pregnant yet if it was only a few days ago you did the deed unless it isnt yours, tests arent nessacarily accurate so i suggest going to see a doctor. If u dnt love her then dont stay with her for the sake of a baby yours or not. A baby deserves love and care.

I hope this helps and all goes well.

personally... thats an immature act....
your "secondary girlfriend"????
im sorry but i dont think i would want my girls thinking its ok for a man,to act that way.... good thing they arent mine.. or u would b gone and i could care less about ur offer to pay drama and gymnastics...
not impressed or feeling sorry for a situation that was ur own making...

and go ahead... think im nasty and horrid... but im just saying what every woman who reads this is thinking...

u made ur bed now lie in it...

Thats right Seaason
If I cheated (which may I add would never do) and my hubby cheated on me for "Payback" Cya later hunny esp if she's pregnant.
But since I shall never be in that situation (dont think TJ would do that to me and Id NEVER do that to TJ) I say neither of you should have the children and they should go to a relative who can give them stable growing up so they dont think that sleeping around and cheating is OK

Brieal