Well I am 28 and having my first baby. I am very happy to finaly be a mom buttt, He left us. He started saying the baby is not his and that the baby isnt real till after birth. He still comes around me but wants nothing to do with the baby. I dont know what to do and what makes it worse is that I miss him horrible and fell bad that I am bringing my baby into the world wit a jerk for a dad.
Do the dads come around after the baby is born?
Are all men like this?
WHAT DO I DO to make him love our baby, like i do???

Sometimes a child and its mother are better off without the father the mother can raise it so much better than a man like that. Who knows maybe he will come around but if he doesnt you will be fine and one day you will fine a man who will love that child more than anything in the world and be more of a father to her than her real one

you can't make him love your baby, and if thats what he is going to be like you are better off without him. he might come around. my husband never once said our first baby wasnt his, once he felt her kick it was very real to him. and he was 19 when she was born. most first time dads get scared, and they tend to go out and party more etc, because they feel like they will never get to again. but what he is doing is uncalled for. you could try to talk to him, ask him why he thinks these things. maybe he is worried, and you could help to ease his mind. if he is just being immature and childish, maybe he isnt ready and he can see his baby when he is ready to put on his big boy panties.

thanks for the advice, and ur both right, we just might be better of without him. Thanks, i feel better about it

he also may snap out of it once he sees the ultrasound

My best friend is in a VERY similar situation. I'm going to tell you the same thing I tell her - You and especially your baby are better off without him. Your primary responsibility is to your baby, or it should be. If he really loved you, he would also love your baby - no questions asked. And if he doesn't love you by now, you can find someone better. That's not to say he'll never love you.. I'm just saying that you need or want his support and he is unwilling to give it. Besides, anyone who thinks a baby isn't real until it's born sounds like an idiot.. not someone I'd want around my baby. And no, not all men are like this. My husband is no saint either, and I want to beat the crap out of him on most days, but I've loved enough to know that not all men are like this.