I ma 26 years old. I am married and we already have two very bueatiful daughters, Kourtnie is 2 1/2 and Madelyn is 14 months. They are 18 1/2 months apart. They were soposst to be 19 1/2 months apart. Madelyn was 5 weeks early. Me and my husband are now trying for our third, I have already heard from my mom and my mother in law that we need to wait. If I get pregrant now Madelyn and the youngest will be right at 2 years or so apart, I dont want to wait and neither dose my husband (he is 34) we dont want a huge gap between kids. Both our parents live about 200 miles away and we see them about once a month. I dont know how to tell them when the time comes, my husband says not to tell them but i dont want to show up very pregnt one time when i see them. ANy advice on how I should tell them, and if we should still keep trying.
Oh yeah Kourtnie was 4 weeks early and had no problems, Madelyn was 5 weeks early and she was in the NICU for 10 days.


Thanks for any advice you can give me.

It is your life and your choice when to have a 3rd child. Every one on the outside can merely give an opinion, they cannot live your live for you.

Listen to others advice, and see it as only that, and then do what you think is best for your family (husband, children).

There are different views on whether it is better to have kids closer together of further apart, each have pro's and con's. In the end it is up to the parents and nature.

We would have liked to have kids closer together and it worked out to be 4 years appart, nothing I could do about that.
If it is meant to be it will happen.

I think that the biggest problem of our families not wanting us to have any more kids (or to wait) is because both of our daughters were early Kourtnie 4 weeks and Madelyn 5 weeks, I know that it is not realy too early, but Madelyn was in the NICU for 10 days and than came home on the Apenia monitor and was on that for a month. My scare is that the next one will be early than five weeks and have a lot more problems. But if that was to happen than it would happen no matter how close or far apart they are. I also feel that they probly think the same way.

I think you should both politely tell yoour parents that its you life and you should be able to do what you want to. You two should be have another baby if you want to without getting any pressure from anyone.

hi honey dont even trip im 31 a mother of 4 w 1 on the way i just found out im 9wks.pregnant and im high risk this is actually my 7th pregnancy ive had 2preterm births@22 1/2 wks. and all my babies are born 7 wks.early my 2oldest are 23mo apart and my 2youngest are 10mo apart 18mo and8mo dont sweat it just tell them cuz i have to do the same thing.

I agree, its your life so its up to you!! If you both want another child & feel ready for one, go ahead.. you never know it could not happen straight away, it could take time- let nature take its course!
I have a 11mth old daughter, me & my husband both want more children, maybe another 1 or 2. He would try for another tonight if i agreed lol! I like the idea of having two close together as there is only 2yrs between me & my brother and we are very close, and i would like the same bond for my daughter. But then i think should i want a while longer so she doesnt feel lefted out ect & gets the attendion she needs. When is the right time?? I dont think there ever is, it there??

I think having all your chidren close together- will be a great, strong bond for them all. I think they all will grow up very very close & admire you for your hard work.