OK, I am of the view that teenagers are not their parents and will make their own decisions. I am a mother and I know that if my daughters came to me or my husband to say they were sexually active, I would put them on birth control. I preach safe sex, and I of all people know that teens will not always wait till marriage, no matter what their parents say. Coming from a teen mom, I would rather teens have safe sex than be exposed to STD's and get pregnant. While saying that, I don't encourage it! But I am not over their shoulder 24/7 and I can only do so much to keep my kids protected.

I'm gonna put in my two cents as a teen who DID have sex and who DID suffer the consequences. Yes, not all teen are having sex. A good deal of them? Maybe, I can only speak for myself. I did it before marriage. I got pregnant because of a broken condom. Wanna know why I wasn't on birth control? I was scared to ask my dad, who was very vocal about waiting until marriage. I was told that "good" girls waited until marriage. I didn't want to be a bad person in his eyes. If your teens are having sex, I'm begging you, put them on birth control! If they're not, then talk to them OPENLY. About waiting, protection, whatever you believe, just talk to them. I love my girls, more than anyone else in this world, but its hard to raise kids. That's just my two cents.
-Dee

I would not be giving my children birth control. If they're going to have sex, let them suffer the consequences. That is called tough love. If they're old enough to have sex, they're old enough to deal with the outcome. I will not be covering for them and handing out birth control: that is, as I said, sending them the message you are okay with it. You cannot have DOUBLE STANDARDS. You cannot tell your child not to have sex and that sex before marriage is wrong, and then hand them birth control! They are going to be LESS LIKELY to do it if you teach them it is wrong and encourage them not to do it..even if they do try it, they will be less likely to continue it. If you give them birth control or condoms, which by the way are not necessarily going to prevent pregnancy or STDs anyway because girls get pregnant everyday on them, they are going to love it because they are thinking they can do it all they want! Our children need us to talk to them openly about sex, yes. But that does not mean we can't tell them what we want for them; we know what's best for them, they do not. Teenagers are still children, and properly influencing our children takes work, communication, involvement, example, understanding, discipline, and a whole lot of love and prayer.